If you feel like nothing in your life is going the way you want it to or planned, it’s time to change your mindset. Martina E. Faulkner has made a career of helping people envision the life they want and then making it happen, and now she’s brining her tips to the masses in her book, “What if..?” She shares some of her tips with us here.

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1. Figure out what you really want.
Sometimes, what you think you want, isn’t really what you want. “Some of my clients say they want to win the lottery,” Faulkner says. “But then I ask them why they want to win the lottery. Is it because they’re scared they won’t have enough money to pay their bills? Is it because they want to travel?” Faulkner says once you get to the root of what you really want, you can start seeking out ways to make it happen, whether that be striving toward a higher-paying job or starting a new career that allows for more traveling. It’s a better bet than hoping you score that golden ticket.

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2. Focus on making small changes, not a huge one.
If your goal is to become the CEO at work, that’s great, but going from where you are to the very top can be overwhelming, so Faulker says to start small. “Smaller, more manageable changes that we can create through manifesting is a good place to start,” she advises in “What if..?” But while you are taking those more manageable actionable steps, don’t lose sight of your overall goal. “For long-term ideas, dream big! The imagination is a wonderful thing, so daydream,” Faulkner says.

3. Prioritize the aspect of your life you want to change the most.
While thinking about what you really want, visualizing it happening and taking actionable steps can change your whole life, Faulkner recommends focusing on one area and then letting the effects spill over into other areas of your life. “Prioritize where you really want to spend your energy and focus on that,” she says. Once you start seeing the positive effects in that area, you can shift your focus to another area, applying the same principles.  

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