Six weeks after meeting on OKCupid, Clara Bensen and Jeff Wilson did something a little crazy: They decided to travel to eight countries in three weeks together — with absolutely no luggage. Bensen boarded the plane with the clothes she was wearing, a comb, toothbrush, credit card and passport, and that’s it. For 21 days.
Bensen, who chronicles their journey in her new book “No Baggage”, is part of the new adventure dating trend, doing something daring with someone you just met. In Aziz Ansari’s Netflix series “Masters of None,” Ansari’s character, Dev, takes crush Rachel (Noel Wells) to Nashville for their first date. Going on an adventure date isn’t only a good story, it creates a deep bond much quicker than you would just going out for dinner and drinks. But there are some things to know before you give it a try. Here, Bensen gives her best tips.
Trust your gut. “Generally speaking, I don’t [recommend] meeting a stranger and then taking off for some crazy adventure a few weeks later. For me, it was totally a gut intuition. The moment I met Jeff, I knew something was going to happen between us. We had a really strong connection and I trusted him pretty quickly. But I doubt that I would have had that same feeling for many other guys I could have met online.”
Be spontaneous. “Introducing a little chaos and uncertainty is a good way to either bond or find out you don’t want to bond. You can seek out exploration and adventure wherever you are. Jeff and I are adventurous in our dates at home in Austin, too. We’ll just walk out the door and explore a new neighborhood.”