Noor Sandhu was a 14-year-old tennis player, a private person and probably the only teenager without some form of social media. Yet she was the victim of a stalker.
“A lot of people only think of stalking as only a celebrity being stalked. I think that’s the biggest misconception,” Sandhu said. “Stalking affects common people — millions of people — before I was stalked I thought it only happened to celebrities.”
National Stalking Awareness Month began in January 2004 and organizations like the Stalking Resource Center and Mayor Bill de Blasio’s program, Coordinated Approach to Prevent Stalking (CAPS), are working to raise awareness, lower stalking-related homicides and increase public knowledge about stalking.
CAPS began on Staten Island in 2014. The idea was to start small before expanding the program citywide, Commissioner Cecile Noel said. The program recently wrapped up training in Queens and the NYPD will help select the next borough to participate, Noel said.
Prior to the program, virtually no stalking crimes were being reported in the city’s small borough, the commissioner said. After the Office to Combat Domestic Violence's Domestic Violence Response Team looked at Staten Island cases involving female homicide victims, a pattern emerged and the incidence of stalking arrests jumped by 233 percent over the previous year.
KNOW THE FACTS
- A recent report from the CDC found that 7.5 million Americans were stalked in the United States during one year.
- Across all genders and sexual orientations in New York City, the Stalking Resource Center estimates 260,787 people are stalked during a 12-month period.
- People ages 18 to 24 are the most commonly stalked and 13 percent of women report having been stalked in college.
- Eleven percent of stalking victims were stalked for five years or more.
- Of female homicide victims that were killed by a current or previous intimate partner, 76 percent of the women had been stalked.
- Nearly 10 percent of victims were stalked by strangers. Most stalking victims know their stalker.
- In New York City, stalking typically falls under harassment, which is a misdemeanor. A felony charge won't be applied unless it is the suspect was convicted of a pervious stalking charge, unless weapons are present or if the stalker's target is under the age of 14.
- Stalking is underreported. Only 37 percent of male stalking victims and 41 percent of female stalking victims report it to the police.
Information provided by Stalking Resource Center
Noel said the idea is to train police and prosecutors on what to look for, how to work with legislation and how to “turn behaviors into language that police could understand and the district attorneys could understand.”
“CAPS is a training program,” Noel added. “We’re training all the providers to put on the same set of glasses … and really key into what victims are telling us. They know the behavior; they don’t necessarily equate that to something that is called stalking.”
For Sandhu, her stalker’s behavior ranged from following her, approaching her in a restaurant where she was eating with her grandfather and posting escalating threats on social media.
The former pro-circuit tennis player didn’t have her own social media accounts, and still doesn’t. Her mom, a single parent and medical doctor, said she didn’t think she was around enough to monitor her young teen’s internet habits.
Yet, Sandhu’s stalker was able to watch and hear the target of his obsession by infecting her home computer with remote viruses.
“I was in shock and I couldn’t believe this was happening to me and I was terrified and horrified and scared for my life basically every second of every day,” she said.
Sandhu said she didn’t know her stalker, but according to CAPS, stalking is often connected to domestic violence and three out of four women and men who are stalked know the perpetrator in some way.
Sandhu is 17 now. She stopped competing in the United States Tennis Association. She never leaves the house alone and her family, who is by nature very private, has ensured security measures are in place to keep Sandhu safe. She is still dealing with her stalker in the North Carolina court system, but she is speaking out and championing an effort to make stalking a minor a felony on the first offense.
Stalking is a crime in all 50 states, the District of Columbia and most U.S. territories, but in New York and most of the nation, stalking is a misdemeanor, unless other charges are levied, such as the threat of harm with a weapon.
“Stalking is a good predictor of lethality,” Noel said, “so we look at this behavior and see how we can prevent that.”
The attention the victim of a stalker gets is not flattering. Sandhu said she did not take it as a compliment and the fear of being followed or watched invades her thoughts every day.
“I didn’t really know about stalking as a crime before it actually happened to me, but I didn’t really see anyone publicly fighting for justice,” Sandhu said.
“My long term goal is to make stalking against minors a felony on the first attempt, but I think what other people can do is to first become educated about this issue. I think the first step to fix any problem is to raise awareness.”
For more information, please visit stalkingawarenessmonth.org.