What’s that? You don’t need help? Your partner might think differently. Sex therapist and relationship counsellor Ian Kerner, author of the best-selling “She Comes First,” gives you an easy-to-follow, 10-step plan of action to boost your sex drive and keep you going from dusk till dawn.
1 SELF-ESTEEM. Do things that will make you feel good that day. Go for a power workout at the gym, something that will also work to increase blood flow and circulation around the body.
2 SCHEDULE. Don’t wait until the evening to get the ball rolling. Get the mental anticipation going and make your couple the No. 1 priority that day. Spend the day being thoughtful and positive.
3 PLAY. Get creative. Use a sleeping mask as a blindfold or go to the pharmacy to get some playful props such as vibrators or arousal gels.
4 DRINK. Blame the bubbles for making you giddy with excitement within sips. The carbonation means it goes straight to you head, hitting the blood stream faster than wine.
5 BEDROOM. Turn your bedroom into a love nest. Get rid of all the clutter, change the sheets and light scented candles as the smell facilitates relaxation. Good lighting is key.
6 INTIMACY. Spend the day and night engaging in a lot of non-sexual physical acts. Hold hands, kiss and cuddle.
7 EAT LIGHT. Start with oysters. Follow with a plate of asparagus to get your dose of folates, which will help your orgasm.
8 WORDS. Make sex a topic that is sexy, not critical. Tell your partner something sexy or openly discuss new positions you want to try.
9 MUSIC. The male orgasm is focused on physical sensations, whereas women relax. Trance-like music will help both.
10 RESOLUTIONS. Make every day a V-Day. Use it as an excuse to prioritize your relationship and create new habits.
