How to make Lulu work for you

Men may not be able to control their Lulu score, but everyone can always control their behavior. / Flickr

Like it or not, the Lulu App is here. So instead of mentally masturbating over whether the app is good or bad, I think it’s more useful to discuss how to use it. If you’re a woman who’s going to consult it pre-dates, or a man who’s checking your ratings, keep these things in mind:

Ladies, the ratings aren’t objective. How many times has a woman offered to set you up with her amazing son, adorable cousin, or “single nephew you would just LOVE!” And if you’ve ever taken up one of those offers you know, generally the guy isn’t quite as great as was promised. This is all to say that ratings from family members and close friends are biased. And of course, ratings from any ex’s are just as biased in the opposite direction.

Guys, it takes two to tango. A bad sex score can mean as much about compatibility or her performance as it does about yours.

Ladies, before posting something nasty, just tell him off. If a guy treated you horribly you shouldn’t just take it. But posting a rant about him isn’t necessarily the best way to ensure he treats other girls better. Your best shot at affecting his future dating behavior is taking the high road and talking to him directly about why his actions were insensitive. Best to tell him to his face rather than try to get revenge behind his back.

Guys, a bad score on Lulu isn’t the end of the world. A girl reading something bad about you may slow her down. But if she really likes you, it’s unlikely to stop her.

Ladies, guys can act in a range of ways. As hundreds of guys told me when I was conducting research for my book Are All Guys Assholes?, guys are capable of acting immaturely and horrible to a girl they don’t care about and also being amazing boyfriends to a girl they do. One girl’s bad review doesn’t necessarily mean the guy is a bad seed. Though a trend may be a trend…

Men and women alike—we’re all out there looking for that special someone (or most of us anyway). But while we’re on that search for that someone, we owe it to each other to treat one another with respect—whether in person, online, or on Lulu.


OMG! Exercise can make skin (and butt) look…

A moderate exercise regime can turn back time and actually reverse the skin's aging process, according to new research. The study showed that a minimum…


Mets mascot Mr. Met target of Bill Clinton…

Mets mascot Mr. Met has told how he ended up in the crosshairs of a Secret Service sniper rifle. The man behind the Mr. Met…


Jews in eastern Ukraine ordered to register, Kerry…

Secretary of State John Kerry condemned reports that Jews in eastern Ukraine had been ordered to register with the authorities "or suffer the consequences."


Chelsea Clinton pregnant with first child

Chelsea Clinton is pregnant with her first child.


'Scandal' recap: Season 3, Episode 18, 'The Price…

Sally is Jesus, Olivia caused global warming, and Mellie's still drunk. Let's recap the Scandal finale. A church full of Washington insiders is about to…


Review: 'Transcendence' is not stupid but sometimes lacks…

The cyberthriller "Transcendence" explores artificial intelligence, nanotechnology and other ethical quandaries, but has too much ambition, if anything.


Dick Wolf to bring fictionalized world of 'Law…

A&E has ordered a pilot called "D.O.A." from "Law and Order" mastermind Dick Wolf that will focus on real detectives reexamining cold cases. A trio…


Shane West talks WGN America's 'Salem'

The actor on history lessons, a new network and showing his butt.


Rangers draw first blood against Flyers in Game…

Brad Richards and Derek Stepan scored power-play goals 47 seconds apart to lead the Rangers to a 4-1 win.


Carmelo Anthony agonizing over Knicks future as season…

There’s still the cloud hanging over the franchise’s head as to the pending free-agent status of All-Star forward Carmelo Anthony.


Jets host players with eye toward NFL Draft

The Jets hosted a number of NFL Draft hopefuls for workouts on Thursday, with an eye toward some under-the-radar players.


Chris Johnson: I wanted to go to 'a…

Now that Chris Johnson is a Jet, the team has to figure out if one of the most explosive players in the NFL over the last half decade has anything…


Light-up nail art syncs with phone

This Japanese technology syncs light-up nail art with your phone.


Why is dance cardio taking off in NYC?

Instructors at some of the city's hottest classes explain why.


Earth Day travel in the Florida Keys

See why this eco-friendly destination deserves your attention.


Sorry, Facebook — FarmVille goes mobile with 'Country…

Zynga has released a version of the hit "FarmVille" tailored for smartphones and tablets in the hope of reaping a bumper crop of players.