‘What a great time last night was, now get out!’
A good cuddle after a vigorous mating ritual is what separates us from the animals. To suggest that you have personal space issues or are sensitive to overstimulation after you’ve had your body intimately explored is downright rude. A minimum of 15 minutes of quality embracing/back tick- ling/hair tousling is in order, no matter how tired (or full of remorse) you are. If you’re on the other side of the fence and could happily cuddle all night, you should never expect or demand that the snuggling last for longer than an hour.
If the hook-up takes place at night, it’s only polite for it to automatically progress into the sleepover phase. Don’t stress about the implications — there are none. Sharing unconsciousness is not necessarily a symbol of commitment or love, it’s just a nice thing to do. It’s the hot lovin’ that has the messy implications.
If you’re the guest:
If you have an early wake-up call, you’re allergic to your date’s cat, or you think you may have left the stove on, you may politely excuse yourself, though you should explain and de-monstrate regret over your departure. If you’d like to stay over but your host doesn’t ex-tend a formal invite, we think it’s OK to assume it’s implicit.
Come morning, how- ever, don’t outstay your welcome. In the first weeks of a relationship, leave as soon as the crossword is done — assuming, of course, that you can get through it together in an hour or two. (If not, have you considered Sudoku?)