Is it really a relationship or just great chemistry?

George Clooney was married once, and he has famously said that he will never do that again. But it is hard not to wonder if each of his girlfriends thinks that she might be the one to change his mind. Or do you think they take him at his word? It’s a common conundrum, and you certainly don’t have to be dating George Clooney to think you just might be special enough to be The One. After all, you probably ask yourself, how could he not feel that amazing connection between you?

So what do you do when you meet a guy and even though he’s clear from the beginning that he’s not interested in getting involved in a serious relationship, the signals he gives you when you’re together tell you something else? You have a great time together, you share many things in common, you laugh a lot and the sex is fantastic. Who wouldn’t want to keep that going? Or what if he isn’t up front about it, but after a few months he shows no interest in meeting your friends and family, he won’t introduce you to his and he’s still available only one night a week, if not less? What initially seemed like a great opportunity is now suddenly starting to make you feel disappointed and needy. When you’re with him it feels great, but when you aren’t he is evasive and slow to return texts and e-mails.

Save yourself the trouble. If you are lucky enough that he is actually open about not wanting a relationship, believe him. And if he is showing you the signs that he doesn’t, then take those to heart and stop hoping for more than he is already giving you. A healthy connection grows when new building blocks are added on. If that isn’t happening, it is your signal that an block is still in place.
For all of you out there hoping to be the second Mrs. Clooney, listen up: If George says it isn’t going to happen, it probably isn’t.

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