“Doc, pouring alcohol on a cut will prevent an infection, right?” Wrong! Here are a few of the most common ill advised home remedies, why they don’t work, and what you should do to help yourself before seeing a doctor.

Burns and butter – Butter has no medicinal properties whatsoever, and may even contaminate a burn, causing it to become infected. Any burns should initially be treated with cold water or an ice pack. Any first-degree burn (redness) can be treated with ibuprofen or aspirin for pain and inflammation, while second degree burns (blisters) should probably be evaluated by a health care professional.

Nosebleeds and ice, tilting your head back or putting tissues in your nose – Nosebleeds are almost universally caused by breakage of tiny capillaries in the mucous membrane lining of the nasal septum, usually from a picking finger or blunt trauma. Dry mucous membranes from a cold, dehydration, or dry air may contribute. Like all bleeding, the immediate treatment is direct pressure to the area — in this case, by blowing out any blood clots, and then pinching the nostrils over the fleshy part of the nose for 8-10 minutes. Ice will only make you nose cold. Tilting your head back will cause you to swallow any blood ad induce nausea and vomiting. And sticking tissues or cotton in the nostrils may be a temporary fix, but removing the packing will likely cause re-bleeding. Anyone taking blood thinners, or with a history of anemia, heart disease or lung disease should probably seek medical attention.

Cuts and rubbing alcohol or hydrogen peroxide – Hydrogen peroxide, rubbing alcohol, and iodine-based antiseptics (betadine) all kill bacteria, but these preparations also kill normal cells and tissue, making the injury worse if applied directly to a wound Any break in the skin is best treated by flushing the cut, scrape or puncture with running water, applying pressure until the bleeding stops and covering he wound with a sterile bandage and antibiotic cream or ointment. If you can see fat or other underlying tissue then the full thickness of your skin has been cut, and you probably need stitches. See a doctor ASAP.

Heat or ice?
Acute musculoskeletal injuries (sprains, bruises) are best treated with intermittent ice and elevation, 20 minutes on and off, in order to reduce swelling and limit disability during the first 24 hours. Heat will increase circulation and so may make swelling from an acute injury worse. After 48 hours heat may improve mobility and accelerate reduction of bruising and swelling. Heat may also be used for improving circulation to soft tissue infections and facilitate treatment with prescribed antibiotics.

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A new study supports what any parent of a teenage girl already knew — that adolescent girls spend their lives arguing with people, tearfully making up, and arguing all over again.

The survey of hundreds of parents by manufacturers of feminine hygiene products said that teen girls argue with their mothers on average 183 times a year — or once every two days.

In between the punch-ups with mom they fight 257 times on average each year with siblings, slam 164 doors and fall out with their friends 127 times. And they cry over boys on average 123 times a year.

After all of that, they spend an average of 274 hours on the phone to their friends, the survey by Li-Lets revealed.

Arguments over the tidiness of bedrooms, unsuitable boyfriends and impudence to parents dominated the rows, the survey found.

Meanwhile a quarter of grown women, looking back at their teen years, agreed they had been a positive menace and regretted the effect their behavior had on the rest of their family.

The women said it was only when they reached the age of 23 that they began to appreciate what their mothers had done for them, and they regarded an 25-year age gap as ideal in a mother-daughter relationship.

Two-thirds of women said they felt they owed a great debt to their mothers, but only 22 per cent agreed that women and girls and their mothers should share every intimate secret.

A third of the women surveyed said they would be reluctant to discuss their monthly period with their mothers, and two-thirds shuddered at the idea of discussing contraception or sex.

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Three of New York’s trendiest fitness clubs may be putting a spiritual spin on their services as a way of avoiding sales taxes, but state Attorney General Eric Schneiderman isn’t having it, Crains reports.

Schneiderman last week issued subpoenas for unpaid sales taxes to popular spinning clubs SoulCycle and Flywheel Sports, and to Bar Method, which bills itself as a combination ballet and Pilates-style workout. The subpoenas are investigative and the companies have not been accused of any wrongdoing.

Fitness companies in New York City, uniquely within the state, are subject to sales taxes unless their services are limited to yoga and meditation, which allows them to qualify for a religious exemption. Bar Method, SoulCycle and Flywheel Sports do not offer yoga, but their branding and testimonials often tout a spiritual element to the workouts.

The tax distinction between yoga studios and other fitness clubs was only made by the state last July, and a consultant for the health and fitness industry told Crains that the problem had arisen before.

“There’s been a real confusion for years as to what the criteria are for payment,” said Richard Caro, president of Management Vision. “This is not something that’s a new topic.”

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The question:
I have really noisy neighbors who are driving me crazy. I hear all their personal conversations and parties, and know way too much about their sex lives. Plus they argue a lot and slam the front door really loud. I pay a lot of rent and resent having to deal with this. Any suggestions?

As the saying goes, good fences make good neighbors. For many cosmopolitans, unfortunately, those proverbial fences are thin walls and creaky floors that broadcast every groan, thump or raised voice from strangers who share the same address. We pay a premium for every square foot of privacy, yet unwittingly share plumbing, critters and private moments. Still, many of us know next to nothing about the lives, much less the names, of the people we pass in halls daily. It’s a strange and uninvited intimacy.

Your frustrations are completely understandable. We expect our homes to be sanctuaries from the hustle and bustle of city life — which is all the more reason we get so bent out of shape by unwelcome disturbances. But you need not suffer interminably. Aside from sound-proofing, there are several things you can do to restore your sanity:

1. Assess the situation. Acting on anger, like retaliating or slamming your door, may only aggravate the situation, and could lead them to believe that you’re the problem. Unlike passengers on a packed train, these aren’t pushy strangers you’ll never see again. Until one of you moves, you’re stuck with them. White noise machines can help buffer conversational intrusion. If the noise is louder and ongoing, you may want to collect your thoughts or make a list of your complaints. If you’re awoken in the middle of the night, knocking on the wall may be just enough to remind your neighbor that the walls are thin.

2. Politely discuss the noise levels with your neighbors (for safety purposes, you may want to take someone else along). Be factual: Tell them what you can hear and suggest they keep noise levels down late at night. If possible, find humor in the situation (a friend received a letter from her neighbor stating: “We respect people’s right to a healthy sex life, but you are keeping our kids up at night”). Your neighbors may be unaware and will want to maintain their privacy. They may also be able to hear you too, which may affect how you choose to modulate your volume. See if you can come up with a mutually agreeable solution. Write down the date when you confronted your neighbors, as you may need it if the issue isn’t resolved.

3. If you receive a negative response, or no response at all, supply them with a copy of your lease. Most leases contain a clause stating your right to “quiet enjoyment.” You might also consider writing your neighbors a letter informing them that if they don’t quiet down, you will be notifying the landlord. A letter signed by other neighbors who don’t appreciate the noise could be additionally effective.

4. If necessary, contact your landlord. Inform him or her of what you’ve done thus far and supply them with a copy of your letter, if you wrote one. You’d be amazed at how much quieter people become if they fear eviction. Calling the police is also an option if the noise is “disturbing the peace,” especially if you suspect domestic violence.

— This column is not intended to be used as a substitute for a private consultation with a mental health professional, nor is this therapist to be held liable for any actions taken as a result of this column. If you have any concerns related to this column, make an appointment with a licensed mental health professional. Metro does not endorse the opinions of the author.

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Some people simply cannot be convinced to eat broccoli despite all its nutritional value. Fortunately, there are other cruciferous vegetables that, like broccoli, are packed with beneficial nutrients that research tells us may have the ability to fight cancer, decrease cognitive decline associated with aging and reduce inflammation in the body.

Part of the cabbage family, cruciferous vegetables include Brussels sprouts, broccoli, cauliflower, kale, cabbage, Swiss chard and collard greens, among others. Including these nutrient-packed veggies in your diet is easy, especially since they are widely available in grocery stores and green markets. Here are just a few ideas for you to try:

Cauliflower Try oven-roasting cauliflower, which will enhance its natural sweetness. For a change of pace, seek out the antioxidant-rich purple variety or the orange cauliflower, which is rich in vitamin A. Hold the cheese sauce, though — it adds too many calories from saturated fat.

Bok choy Also known as Chinese cabbage, this low-calorie veggie can be steamed, sautéed or stir-fried. It also is delicious raw, tossed lightly with a dressing made with rice wine or cider vinegar and a small amount of oil and reduced-sodium soy sauce. Eating the bok choy raw helps preserve the vitamin C, which is heat-sensitive.

Kale Known as a superfood because it is packed with vitamins, minerals and antioxidants, kale can be steamed, sautéed or eaten raw.

The American Institute for Cancer Research website is a great resource to find out more about cancer-fighting foods and delicious recipes to enjoy them.

Michele Weisberge is a dietitian and nutritionist for cancer supportive services at Beth Israel Medical Center. Read her previous posts here. This article first appeared on www.healthbytesnyc.com.

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The thyroid gland got its name from the Greek word for “shield,” inspired by its physical appearance in the neck. In many ways, it acts like a shield by protecting our bodies from losing functional balance. The gland produces and releases thyroid hormone, which is crucial in regulating metabolism — digestion, weight, temperature regulation and reproduction all are affected.

The thyroid works like a thermostat via its connection with the brain. If there is not enough thyroid hormone in the bloodstream, the brain will stimulate the thyroid gland to produce and release more. Blood tests are an easy way to detect both the level of thyroid hormone circulating in the blood — generally free thyroxine (T4) — and the stimulating signal from the brain (TSH, or thyroid stimulating hormone). The most common thyroid problems involve abnormal production.

Hypothyroidism

Hypothyroidism is the term used to describe an underactive thyroid.

Symptoms include:
• Fatigue
• Feeling colder than usual
• Changes in skin and hair
• Weight gain

Causes
A common cause of hypothyroidism is Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, an autoimmune disorder in which cells in the body prevent the thyroid from producing and releasing enough thyroid hormone. Other causes include surgical removal of the thyroid gland for thyroid cancer; treatment of hyperthyroidism (an overactive thyroid gland) with radioactive iodine; or being born with an underactive thyroid gland.

Treatment
The treatment for hypothyroidism is to replace thyroid hormone in the form of a pill taken once a day, preferably by itself and on an empty stomach so that it is fully absorbed. The dose is easily adjusted based on blood tests.

Hyperthyroidism

Hyperthyroidism describes an overactive thyroid gland.

Symptoms include:
• Increased sweating
• Heart palpitations
• Increased anxiety
• Diarrhea
• Weight loss

Causes
A number of conditions can cause hyperthyroidism. Opposite to hypothyroidism, cells in the bloodstream called antibodies make the thyroid gland secrete an excessive amount of thyroid hormone.

Treatments
The two most common treatments for hyperthyroidism are radioactive iodine and medication. Radioactive iodine works by destroying part of the thyroid gland to restore a normal level of thyroid hormone in the body; however, it is possible that hypothyroidism may then develop. Radioactive iodine has the benefit of generally being a more permanent treatment, although medications used to treat hyperthyroidism can be very effective in certain people, too. Just as in hypothyroidism, blood tests should be done routinely to monitor treatment.

Thyroid cancer

Thyroid cancer can develop and, in the majority of cases, is curable by surgical removal of the thyroid gland by an experienced surgeon. Radioactive iodine may be used after surgery to destroy any small remaining cancer cells. An endocrinologist should be directly involved in monitoring care.

Extremes of thyroid function can certainly have an impact on your quality of life; the beauty is that with the correct diagnosis and management, these conditions can be greatly improved!

Information provided by Dr. Gregory B. Dodell, who works in endocrinology, diabetes and nutrition at St. Luke’s and Roosevelt hospitals. Click here to view all of his posts. This article first appeared on www.healthbytesnyc.com.

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It is no coincidence that May was selected as Allergy and Asthma Awareness Month: March through May is when trees are pollinating in most of the United States, with some varieties in the South and Southwest getting an even earlier start.

Pollen — the microscopic plant particles that cause seasonal allergies in many people — comes from three general types of plants: trees, grasses and weeds. In general, trees pollinate in the late winter and early spring; grasses often overlap with trees at the end of their season and extend late into the summer; and ragweed, the most potent of allergenic weeds, starts pollinating in mid-August and lasts through September.

Each tree pollinates for one to two weeks, and at that time pollen levels can be quite high, resulting in severe nasal symptoms and, in more severe cases, asthma. In especially pollen-heavy years, some people with nasal allergies can even develop asthma. If you are allergic to only a couple of trees (usually not the case for most tree-allergic people), then your symptoms might only last for a couple of weeks. Any patient with seasonal asthma (or even chest symptoms) should be monitored by a physician, and the same applies to patients with more severe springtime nasal symptoms.

The timing of tree pollens varies each year, depending on the pattern of weather in the preceding winter months. A warmer winter will often result in earlier pollination, and a wetter winter may cause trees to pollinate at higher levels.

Treatment options

The management of pollen symptoms is improved if patients begin medications prior to the development of symptoms. You do not need to suffer during allergy seasons — there are plenty of treatment options:

• Over-the-counter antihistamines (the non-sedating variety are preferable) can help control sneezing and itchiness.
• Prescription nasal and lung steroid sprays can help control nasal congestion and asthma symptoms.
• There are newer prescription nasal antihistamine sprays that work on both sneezing and itching and, when used regularly, can help control congestion, too.
• Patients whose symptoms cannot be controlled with medications might benefit from allergy injections. These injections are given weekly, then less frequently once the patient is desensitized. They reduce the body’s reaction to the normally harmless pollen granules, but they take months or longer to start working.
• For eye itching, the oral antihistamines can be of benefit, and there are antihistamine eyedrops available by prescription and over-the-counter, too.

This post first appeared on www.healthbytesnyc.com. Dr. Bruce Dobozin is an attending allergist in the Department of Medicine at Beth Israel Medical Center. Click here to view his previous posts.

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Suicidal kids have access to guns
Location of study: U.S.
Study subjects: 524 patients aged 10-21 with physical or mental health issues
Results: A new report, to be released Monday at the Pediatric Academic Societies’ annual meeting, finds that almost 20 percent of children and teens at risk for suicide live in homes where a gun is on the premises, and have access to it.
Significance: The CDC says that suicide is the second leading cause of death among people aged 10 to 24 in the U.S. About fifty percent of those suicides involve a firearm.

High-protein, low-carb diets affect fertility
Location of study: U.S.
Study subjects: 120 women undergoing IVF treatment
Results: New research presented at the recent American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists’ annual meeting touted the benefit of a high protein diet on a woman’s fertility. The study found that those women whose diets included 25 percent or more of protein and under 40 percent carbohydrates increased their chances of becoming pregnant by four times.
Significance: The researchers concluded that protein both produced healthier eggs and that although higher body mass index has been indicated in women with lower fertility, poor quality eggs were found in thin women, too.

Americans not exercising enough
Location of study: U.S.
Study subjects: Americans
Results: Nearly 80 percent of Americans do not exercise enough, a new report from the CDC says. Only 29.3 percent of Americans did enough muscle-strengthening exercise to the recommended level and only 51.6 percent of those who did the same for aerobics.
Significance: The CDC recommends people walk two and a half hours per week (or jog one hour and fifteen minutes), plus do callisthenic exercises like sit-ups and push-ups at least twice a week.

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Desperate for a fix, Professor David Nutt considered buying magic mushrooms on the street. Restrictions on the drug were making it impossible to conduct clinical trials, and Nutt had no way to secure the mushrooms that are widely available from illegal dealers.

“Fortunately the publicity helped; we are optimistic about the license and supply now,” Nutt, head of neuropsychopharmacology at Imperial College London told Metro. No stranger to controversy – Nutt was sacked as government adviser for claiming ecstasy is as safe as horseback riding – he is set to push the boundaries with the first trial of magic mushrooms for the treatment of depression.

Research has shown that psilocybin, the active ingredient in mushrooms, dampens the brain’s anterior cingulate cortex, which is overactive in depression sufferers. Trials will target the most severe cases. “The hypothesis is lasting benefits for people who have not responded to interventions,” says Nutt. “I’m not saying we will revolutionize depression treatment, but there is a group for whom it will be useful.”

If the treatment seems radical, the professor argues it is proportionate. “Depression is the largest cause of disability in Europe, and only two-thirds of people get well. The rest are out of work and can’t cope – we have to try everything.”

Despite a rigorous attachment to evidence, Nutt admits he is fighting a crusade and wants to “tap into a reservoir” of hard drugs in clinical practice. “It’s a campaign for the liberation of science – drug laws have censored research in this field for 60 years. I think it’s the worst censorship since the Catholic Church stopped Galileo using his telescope.”

Psilocybin and other mind-altering drugs are becoming popular solutions to a broad spectrum of mental health issues. A 2012 study found that ecstasy chemical MDMA had a lasting impact on post-traumatic stress disorder. Norwegian academics recently found that LSD improved misuse rates in 59% of alcoholics.

“LSD seems to help people see their problems in a different light, to give new insights into their problems … and to make a strong resolution to discontinue their drinking,” said psychologist Pål Johansen, who led the Norwegian study. “It was not unusual for patients to become much more self-accepting, and to adopt a more positive, optimistic view of their capacities to face future problems.”

It is the “state” induced by such drugs that has proved controversial, with claims that such powerful effects are unpredictable and can add to mental health problems. “Certainly there can be short-term devastating effects,” said Dr. Adam Winstock, addiction psychologist and drug expert. “A bad trip can worsen pre-existing conditions, there would need to be careful psychological assessment first.”

But he added: “It’s sensible to seek new treatment for conditions we don’t treat well. People take antidepressants for years at a massive cost for health care and productivity. Professor Nutt is working as a treatment ‘prospector’, and if he strikes gold there will be a gold rush.”

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Ah, the orgasm. To many, it is necessary for everyday living and easy to achieve. But for countless others, it is elusive.

Many of my female patients say they are frustrated that they can’t achieve orgasm when they are with their partners. They’ve read how-to sex manuals, taken herbal concoctions — some have even gotten their hands on Viagra to try and get things moving. Usually they come in after several visits to medical professionals to explore non-medical factors that might be contributing to their inability to get there.

I start the session with one simple question: Can you bring yourself to orgasm? The answer is usually yes. In that case, these women are physically just fine. This tells me that the issue is about how they think about sex, their partners and themselves. Similar to fear and anxiety, changing the way they think about a situation can make all the difference.

• See this issue as an opportunity to improve and know yourself rather than as a problem. Take the opportunity to expand your sexual horizons and learn what works. Remember, you’ve already proven to yourself that an orgasm is biologically possible. So before tweaking your technique, it is important to feel comfortable with your body. Tell yourself that you can enjoy an orgasm while feeling good about taking care of your needs.

• Accept that sex is more than just a methodical process. Much of what stands between a self-induced orgasm and one with your partner occurs in your head.

• Know that the formula for a fulfilling orgasm includes more than just an adjustment of speed and intensity. An emotional bond, closeness and being in sync with each other’s bodies is crucial. Popping Viagra is probably about as effective as eating cherries.

• Don’t focus solely on technique or the genitals. This will only lead to anxiety and tension — both of which are incompatible with relaxing and letting yourself go.

• Realize that there is more to sex than just traditional sexual intercourse. Recognize the entire body has the potential to feel good and attempt to stimulate each other in ways you haven’t tried before.

Jonathan Alpert is a licensed psychotherapist and executive coach. His book, “Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days,” is available now. Email him your questions at jonathan@jonathanalpert.com. Metro does not endorse the opinions of the author, or any opinions expressed on its pages.

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Soaking up the sun is one the most relaxing summertime activities. With the sun come certain health risks. We lather our bodies in SPF to avoid painful burns and ultimately skin cancer.

Despite the negative side effects of sun tanning, there are some benefits to sun exposure.

The news comes as the Food and Drug Administration proposes tighter regulations for tanning beds, saying UV-based sun lamps can boost the risk of melanoma by 75 percent.

Dermatologists at the University of Edinburgh put 24 volunteers all in their early 20s under tanning lamps. One group was under the lamp for 20 minutes and was exposed to UV and heat lamps. In the other group the UV rays were blocked.

Following each session, the dermatologists measured the volunteers’ blood. The results indicate that sunlight lowers blood pressure, which decreases risk of blood disease. The subjects with the UV-lamps saw a decrease of 2 mmHg in their bloog pressure, which lasted for approximately one hour.

The subjects in the heat-lamp only session did not see a change in their blood pressure.

The researches determined that the decreased blood pressure may offset the risk of skin cancer. According to the study, heart disease and stroke linked to high blood pressure result in 80 times more deaths in the United Kingdom than skin cancer.

Researchers say they will need to do more research to confirm this conclusion.

“We now plan to look at the relative risks of heart disease and skin cancer in people who have received different amounts of sun exposure,” said Dr. Richard Weller, the leader of the research team. “If this confirms that sunlight reduces the death rate from all causes, we will need to reconsider our advice on sun exposure.”

So for the time being, soak up the sun.

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Mom will get buff at As One.

As One

www.as1effect.com

Bring mom to any class this Thursday for free — and it doesn’t have to be your mom, any mom will do! As One’s bootcamp-like classes are usually pretty tough, but they swear that the classes are adaptable for all fitness. Email keith@as1effect.com to sign up. Mom will also leave with a gift bag and a free week of classes.1effect.com

Planet Fitness

www.planetfitness.com

Every 2.3 minutes, a woman in the U.S. is diagnosed with breast cancer. Do your part to help eradicate the disease — sign up for a PF membership between May 8 and 15^th and the $10 enrollment fee will go to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation (after that, it’s just $10 a month for you). While you’re there, nominate the lady in your life as the Best Mom on the Planet for a shot at a year-long membership for you and your madre.

Flywheel

www.flywheelsports.com

Moms who ride on Sunday will get complimentary snacks from the Flywheel team. Out East, a Mother’s Day-themed ride will take place at the East Hampton studio Sunday at 9:30 a.m. All moms taking part in the studio’s TorqBoard competition will get a CD with songs from the class.

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On Monday, New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie revealed he underwent weight loss surgery because he became concerned about his health. We’ve put together a slideshow of other celebrities and public figures who have had similar procedures done.

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With just a few more weeks to go before beach body season, we thought we’d share exclusive recipes from Gwyneth Paltrow’s latest cookbook ‘It’s All Good’- specifically ones from the ‘Body Building Menu’. Because if this meal plan is what helped 40-year-old Gwyneth get a ‘22-year-old stripper’s butt’, maybe it’ll do the same for us. And have you see “Iron Man 3″? She looks amazing, even when the girl is literally on fire.

RECIPE: Protein-packed breakfast: Leftover quinoa with egg, kale and scallion

Cooked quinoa is a great, useful staple to have on hand at all times, especially in the morning.

Serves 1:
Ingredients:
2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
1 garlic clove, finely minced
2 large leaves of kale (stems discarded), finely shredded
½ cup perfectly cooked quinoa
Coarse sea salt
Freshly ground black pepper
A poached egg or olive oil fried egg
1 scallion, white and light green parts only, very finely sliced

Method:
Heat the oil and garlic over medium heat in a small skillet until the garlic begins to soften, just 1 minute. Add the shredded kale and cook, stirring now and then, until the kale is wilted, 2 to 3 minutes. Add the quinoa and cook, stirring until warmed through, another 2 minutes. Season the mixture to taste with salt and pepper. Place the mixture in a shallow bowl or on a plate, top with the egg, and sprinkle with the scallions. Add a final grind of black pepper if you like.

RECIPE: Post workout protein-packed snack: Body Builder Smoothie

Packed with vitamins and minerals from the green powder, made sweet with a date and creamy with almond milk and banana, this super high-protein shake will set you up for your day or workout and is also a great recovery beverage to enjoy right after your workout.
Serves 1:

Ingredients:
1 serving whey protein powder
1 serving greens powder
1½ cups cold unsweetened vanilla-flavored almond milk
1 date, pitted
1/3 banana

Method:
Blend everything in a powerful blender and drink immediately.

RECIPE: Elimination Diet + Vegan Lunch: spicy sweet potato soup with chipotle + coriander

My gosh, this is the perfect soup…with the southwestern flavors and its creamy, rich texture without the dairy, you’ll really feel as if you’re having a treat. For a bit of extra texture, pan-fry a few pieces of sweet potato in a bit of olive oil with toasted ground cumin or coriander and slide them onto the finished soup before serving.

Serves 4:
Ingredients:
2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
1 large red onion, finely diced (about 1 ½ cups)
2 garlic cloves, minced
6 sprigs of cilantro, leaves reserved for garnish, stems tied together with a piece of kitchen string.
¾ teaspoon cumin
Coarse sea salt
1 ½ teaspoons chipotle in adobo (or more if you like)
2 large sweet potatoes, peeled and diced (about 6 cups)
6 cups vegetable stock

Method:
Heat the olive oil in a large, heavy pot over medium heat. Add the onion, garlic, cilantro sprigs, cumin and a heavy pinch of salt and cook, stirring now and then, until softened, but not browned, 10 minutes.
Add the chipotle and the sweet potatoes and stir to combine. Add the vegetable stock to the stock and turn up the heat. Once the soup comes to a boil, lower the heat and simmer until the sweet potatoes are very soft, about 30 minutes. Remove and discard the cilantro. Carefully puree the soup in a powerful blender. If you want a really refined, smooth texture, you can pass the pureed soup through a fine-mesh strainer. Garnish each bowl with a few of the reserved cilantro leaves.

Afternoon snack: A handful of soaked raw almonds

RECIPE: Protein Packed Dinner: Turkey Meatballs

No food makes me feel more comforted than spaghetti and meatballs, and that’s always been the way. I have moved from pork and veal to the turkey variety in an on-going effort to clean up my diet, but my meatballs still have dairy (cheese), gluten (bread crumbs), and egg. One afternoon, we devised this incredibly easy, incredibly god ‘friendly’ version that still does the trick.

Serves 4: (makes 2 dozen golf ball-sized meatballs)

Ingredients:
1 small onion, roughly chopped
2 garlic cloves, roughly chopped
8 fresh sage leaves
8 large fresh basil leaves
Leaves from 4 sprigs of thyme
Leaves from a 5-inch sprig of rosemary
¼ cup Italian parsley
1 large handful of arugula roughly chopped
1 pound ground turkey
1 teaspoon coarse sea salt
½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
4 cups tomato sauce
3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil

Method:
Combine the onion, garlic, herbs, and arugula in the bowl of a food processor and pulse until very finely chopped. Transfer the mixture to a large mixing bowl along with the turkey, salt, and pepper. Use your hands to thoroughly combine all the ingredients, then roll the mixture into golf ball-sized meatballs.
Place the tomato sauce in a large pot set over low heat and let it get warm.
While the sauce is warming, heat the olive oil in a large non-stick skillet over medium-high heat. Cook the meatballs, in batches if necessary, until they’re browned all over, 2-3 minutes on a side. Transfer the browned meatballs to the simmering tomato sauce and partially cover the pot. Let the meatballs cook gently for ½ hour, carefully stirring every now and then to make sure they’re cooking evenly. Serve hot with your favorite gluten-free pasta, a pot of polenta or even on their own alongside some broccoli rabe

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We asked Osteopathic Physician, Dr. Habib Sadeghi, who wrote the foreword for “It’s All Good,” to tell us his top five foods for optimum health

1. Organic green vegetable juice: “You can’t find a more potent, highly packed nutritious food, full of minerals and antioxidants that are immediately assimilated by the body. Avoid store juices. They’re loaded with added sugars and pasteurized, which destroys the enzymes and damages the vitamins.”

2. Lacto-fermented foods: “Yogurt, kefir, sauerkraut, kim chi and beet kvass supply large populations of “good” bacteria to your intestinal track. These probiotics boost your immune system.”

3. Dairy: “Raw, unpasteurized dairy provides valuable nutrients for healing and maintenance. Switching from cow to goats milk can make a big difference because the protein molecules in goat’s milk are much smaller and easier for humans to absorb.”

4. Berries of any kind: “They’re packed with antioxidants. Unfortunately, berries are some of the most heavily sprayed crops, particularly strawberries, so only buy organic.”

5. Wild caught sockeye salmon and grass-fed beef: “Fish oils from wild caught salmon with no risk of heavy metals are extremely important for brain function and anti-aging. Small amounts of beef are important for B vitamins and iron.”

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The gluten-free trend continues to bring legions onto the no-wheat bandwagon. But now, it’s not just gluten-intolerant people who are giving up the protein.

Dr. Arthur Agatston, a cardiologist who authored the renowned health book “The South Beach Diet” and created SouthBeachDiet.com, has followed up with “South Beach Diet Gluten Solution.” The book isn’t just for people diagnosed with gluten intolerance (celiac disease), he says — it’s for everyone.

“I think everyone is on the gluten-sensitive spectrum to some degree,” says Agatston. “I am convinced it is the most under-diagnosed medical condition of our time.”

Gluten is a protein found in highest concentration in wheat, but other grains like barley have smaller amounts. Some grains like quinoa or oats have none. Gluten can damage the small intestine, which is where nutrients from food are absorbed: “If gluten is not properly digested, it begins to poke holes in the lining and harms the small intestine,” explains Agatston.

The issue isn’t gluten, he says, but its misuse by the food industry.

“It’s in everything and that’s the problem. Our bodies are inundated with it now, creating sensitivity. There are those who have celiac disease and they should avoid it at all times. But for most of us, we need to be gluten-aware and restrict ourselves.”

According to the book, lowering gluten intake can improve mental focus and energy levels, heal chronic skin conditions such as psoriasis, relieve anxiety and depression, help with rheumatoid arthritis and protect against diabetes.

“There is no downside to going gluten-free,” says Agatston. “But people don’t have to be gluten-phobic, just gluten-aware. Find your own threshold and what makes you feel healthier. If you cheat one day, cut back the next.”

How to do it

Be gluten aware: Choose grains carefully, cut down on beer, avoid seitan — which is highly concentrated gluten — and swap commercially made white bread for naturally risen whole wheat bread. “When wheat is processed, the bran and wheat germ are taken away. We’re left with the starch, which concentrates the gluten,” says Agatston.

“Also, the way bread was traditionally baked, it was left to rise and the bacteria broke down the gluten, predigesting it for us. Now, commercial bakers make ‘no-rise’ bread and the gluten isn’t broken down at all, giving us a bigger load to tackle.”

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Those surfers you see killin’ it out there on the waves? They (probably) weren’t born with that ripped bod. All of that paddling and popping up and down in the water “creates that long, lean physique,” says celebrity fitness trainer, Adam Rosante, the founder of The People’s Bootcamp. He created a new workout called WaveShape to help you get the surfer’s body of your dreams.

“My friend Anna Jerstrom, the owner of Calavera Swimwear, called me one day and asked if I could help her and her athletes ramp up their training regimen,” Rosante says. “She sponsors these amazing women who face down some of the biggest waves on the planet. So it was really important to me that they stay as functionally strong, agile and powerful as possible.”

Rosante’s workout is based in a framework he dubs “power intervals,” which improve endurance. The moves are done over a series of 30 seconds, so you can focus on form, not reps. You can learn the full series (12 moves) when it launches as a free online community with video at www.getinwaveshape.com, and you can pre-register for it now.

Rosante gave us a sneak peak at five of the moves that’ll get your body in surf shape. ”Do this three times a week with another two days cross-training of your choice and you’ll be bouncing quarters off your abs come June,” he says.

Directions

• Perform each move back-to-back for 30 seconds each with no rest. That’s round one.
• Rest 30 seconds and repeat this format twice more for a total of 3 rounds.
• Remember to maintain perfect form and go at your own pace.

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This is part 2 of a 2-part series on yoga and stress.
In part 1 of this series, I discussed how adopting a yoga practice as part of your routine can help you manage stress and bring a sense of well-being to your life. Here, I will focus in more detail on how various yoga poses, or asana, can help you cultivate balance and flexibility, both on and off the mat.

Calm in the Face of Stress
Yoga teaches us to approach challenging poses (i.e., stress) with a balance of steadfast determination and calm focus. If you try to bully your way through the posture with too much energy and fire, the pose is overpowered. If you adopt an attitude of defeat and plan your exit strategy without even attempting the pose, you immediately surrender to what you have labeled an insurmountable task. Either way, you make no progress and the asana remains a perceived threat rather than a challenge to be mastered.

A skillful yogi lets her breath initiate and guide her physical movements and poses. By learning to pay deliberate and conscious attention to your inhalation and exhalation, your nervous system fluctuates comfortably in a healthy, balanced and flexible manner. When coupled with intentional attention to the breath, poses that challenge you physically and mentally teach you to maintain calm in the face of stress.

Learning from Yoga
Each category of yoga poses fortifies the yogi with unique tools to meet real-life stresses effectively:
• Standing Postures — These teach you to pause and focus your energy as you ground and root down to find balance. In tree pose, you also learn to remain engaged and able to move with the natural fluctuations when standing on one leg, as pictured in the photo above.
• Inversions — Postures where the head is below the level of the heart teach us to become more comfortable with looking at things from a different perspective.
• Back Bends — An invigorating and energizing class of poses, back bends teach you to become comfortable with exposing your more vulnerable side, your front body. You also learn how to return adeptly and efficiently to a more relaxed state.
• Forward Folds — These are typically calming poses that give you the opportunity to reflect and adopt a quiet and introspective attitude.
Some poses create feelings of fear and even dread in some yogis. Headstand, handstand and some extreme backbends, for example, teach you how to confront your fear of falling and hurting yourself, through composure and focused intention. Hip openers can be particularly difficult for many people, creating intense sensations and emotional release. These poses teach you to breath into, rather than reflexively pull away from, the discomfort and give it time to dissipate. Above all, yoga poses teach humility, ego control and a good sense of humor — all benefits in any stressful situation you will ever encounter!

A Gift to Yourself
A yoga practice that ends with a period of meditation gives you the opportunity to turn inward and let go. The practice of meditation is a sanctuary and gift you can give yourself. It teaches you, over time, to quiet the incessant chatter of your mind, and is a personal retreat from the rest of the world, if only briefly.

If your entire yoga practice consists of nothing more than sitting quietly in a comfortable seated posture while repeating a personal mantra (think “Let” on the inhale, for example, and “Go” on the exhale), allowing you to face life stresses more effectively, then you have a very advanced practice, indeed.

Let Yoga Be Your Guide
By learning to pay attention to how you perceive and label stresses or challenges in your yoga practice, you gain insight into how you react to stresses in your life off the mat, as well. Yoga gives you all the tools you need to remain present and focused, engaged and calm, energized and in control, flexible, balanced and intentional. When you use your yoga practice as a guide in your interactions and behavior with others, you can purposefully and consciously choose the path of response that is most beneficial and appropriate — surmounting challenges and stresses that you might otherwise have found daunting and impossible to meet.

Information provided by Jennifer Svahn, MD, FACS, Attending Vascular Surgeon in the Department of Surgery at Beth Israel Medical Center and a Registered Yoga Teacher.

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Herb gardens are not only a great way to enhance your dinner dishes, but also your well-being. Here are five ways you can use herbs and gardening to help improve your health:

1. Eat and use herbs
There are lots of vitamins and minerals in herbs that we don’t even realize. Depending on the herb, they can increase circulation, help with digestion, supply rich antioxidants, have astringent and antiseptic properties, and much more. Using a variety will help make sure you get all the benefits. Herbs not only can be ingested for their health benefits, but also can be used for aromatherapy. For example, smelling lavender can help you de-stress and increase relaxation.

2. Have fresh herbs on hand
Fresh herbs are better than artificial flavors or dried seasonings. Not only are fresh herbs more potent and flavorful, but the nutrients in them won’t be lost with processing and packaging. You can grow them outside or inside, and they will always be there for your use. On top of that, you save money and time by not having to buy herbs — you can have all your favorites stocked at home.

3. Start your own garden
Gardening is a great way to get your body moving and soaking up your daily dose of vitamin D outdoors. Even tending your own small herb garden in your window can be therapeutic and help relieve stress. Having plants in your home, even a small herb garden, can clean the air and increase the oxygen level indoors.

4. Share and experiment
Did you know there are almost 30 different types of basil plants? This gives you a lot of options and room for exploring new flavors and expanding your herb garden. You will have more than enough herbs to go around once they start growing, so share the health and wealth with others. Trimming and using the herbs helps keep them growing and healthy.

5. Store your herbs
If you can’t use an herb now, you can store it for later. Preserve your herbs for future use by freezing or drying them. Ice cube trays are a great method for freezing some herb leaves and then using them when you are ready. The benefit of freezing, as opposed to drying, is that the herbs retain more of their just-picked flavor. Either way, it is a great way to use all that you cultivate, and to have great-tasting herbs all year round.

Information provided by Julie Winslow, director health education and outreach at the Karpas Health Information Center at Beth Israel Medical Center.

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The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) and the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services have designated Thursday, May 9, 2013 as National Children’s Mental Health Awareness Day. The goal is “to raise awareness about the importance of children’s mental health and that positive mental health is essential to a child’s healthy development from birth.”

So why should you care about the mental health of your child or adolescent? Because with the proper diagnosis and treatment of a mental illness, your children can go on to lead healthy, productive lives.

Here are some quick statistics to consider:

* Four million children and adolescents in this country suffer from a serious mental disorder that causes significant functional impairments at home, at school and with peers.
* Of children ages 9 to 17, 21 percent have a diagnosable mental or addictive disorder that causes at least minimal impairment.
* Half of all lifetime cases of mental disorders begin by age 14. Despite effective treatments, there are long delays, sometimes decades, between the first onset of symptoms and when people seek and receive treatment. An untreated mental disorder can lead to a more severe, more difficult to treat illness and to the development of co-occurring mental illnesses.
* In any given year, only 20 percent of children with mental disorders are identified and receive mental health services.
* Suicide is the third leading cause of death in youth ages 15 to 24. More teenagers and young adults die from suicide than from cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, stroke, pneumonia, influenza and chronic lung disease combined.
* Approximately 50% of students age 14 and older who are living with a mental illness drop out of high school. This is the highest dropout rate of any disability group.
* Left untreated, childhood disorders are likely to persist and lead to a downward spiral of school failure, limited or non-existent employment opportunities and poverty in adulthood. No other illnesses harm so many children so seriously.
* Early and effective mental health treatment can prevent a significant proportion of delinquent and violent youth from future violence and crime. It also enables children and adolescents to succeed in school, to develop socially and to fully experience the developmental opportunities of childhood.
Source: National Alliance on Mental Illness

The Child and Family Institute at St. Luke’s and Roosevelt Hospitals treats children and adolescents ages 0 to 18. For more information visit www.ChildFamilyInstituteNY.org. You can also find them on Facebook and follow them on Twitter.

If your or your loved one is experiencing suicidal thoughts, go to the nearest emergency room or call 800.273.TALK (8255).

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There are around three million unplanned pregnancies every year in the U.S., and though it’s an issue often associated with teenagers, a proportion of women this happens to are older, and some are married.

“Anyone who is sexually active potentially can become pregnant,” Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, a Columbia University Medical Center professor of clinical Obstetrics and Gynecology, reminds us. She gives us a refresher course on our options for making sure a baby doesn’t catch us by surprise.

Birth control pills: You can still take it well past your teen years, Dr. Hutcherson says. “It’s a safe option for women of all ages. Initially, when it was first passed, it was recommended for women until age 30, then it was age 35, but now most women can safely use it right into their forties until they reach menopause.”

The morning-after-pill: “This should only be used in emergencies and not relied on as a form of contraception,” Dr. Hutcherson says. “It should be used as soon after intercourse as possible.”

Condoms: “Condoms work great if people use them consistently and right from the beginning of intercourse. The female condom is wonderful: I thought it was going to be popular, but it’s large and makes slurping noises during sex. The newer ones are less noisy, but it’s not caught on.

IUDs: They’re convenient and have undergone major improvements, Dr. Hutcherson says. “Women stopped using IUDs because of infections, which caused infertility. But modern ones are smaller and improved. Even young women who haven’t had children can use them. They work well and you just leave them in place until you want to have children.”
Age ain’t nothin but a number
If you’ve hit menopause — no periods for 12 consecutive months — you can stop using contraception, Dr. Hutcherson says. But not a moment before! “Some women become relaxed because they think they’re too old to become pregnant. The chances are small, it’s less for women over 35, and even less for women over 40, but it isn’t zero.”

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It’s springtime and with warmer weather, thoughts turn to wearing shorts and baring legs — which can mean anguish for people with varicose veins.

“When spring comes we get busier. Everyone wants them gone before summer,” says Dr. Luis Navarro, director of The Vein Treatment Center in New York and author of “No More Varicose Veins.” “The body can’t heal them, they just get worse. Over time other problems can develop, such as ankle swelling, pigmentation or thrombosis.”

The good news is that treating varicose veins is now far less painful and comes with less downtime. We asked Dr. Navarro to break down the different treatment options.

Painless sclerotherapy
“Sclerotherapy can involve up to 200 injections in three sessions. It can be done in a day, or it can also be done in multiple visits. We numb with ice and pressure to overload sensory fibers, so the patient doesn’t feel pain. Then, we inject a chemical compound which collapses the vein.”

Foam sclerotherapy
“This is a stronger compound and used for deeper, bigger veins. The foam needs to be used with care and the person performing the operation needs to know when to use liquid or foam, or a combination of both. It’s harder to control than liquid.”

Endovenous laser ablation
“This uses modern laser to weld the main vein shut and then we use a needle to remove it — that’s called phlebectomy. There are no stitches. We use an anesthetic and you don’t know it’s being done. It can take as little as 35 minutes.”

Ligation and stripping
“This is traditional surgery, which is done in a hospital under a general anesthetic. Thirty years ago, it was the only option. It involves multiple cuts to allow for the surgeon to perform the phlebectomy.”

Not spider veins

What are varicose veins? What about telangiectasias (spider veins)? What causes them?

“Varicose veins are the big, ropey looking veins and are a blue or greenish color. Spider veins are reddish purple and look like little lines. A lot of people have both. Fifty percent of adults have some degree of varicose veins by age 50, and 70 percent have them by age 70. They increase through life: Pregnancy can cause them, but the biggest factor is hereditary.”

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If you’ve been diagnosed with breast cancer, you know that the journey isn’t over once the cancer is out. With proper planning, however, reconstructive surgery can be a positive step toward recovery. The important thing is to fully explore all options and find the best one for you. “Before deciding on [a] mastectomy, discuss your options with your board-certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon who specializes in breast reconstruction,” says Dr. Andrew P. Ordon, F.A.C.S., an aesthetic plastic and reconstructive surgeon with a private practice in New York City. “There are a number of options based on the type of tumor and how aggressive the cancer is, and the stage of the disease. There’s also the option of immediate or delayed reconstruction,” he adds.

There are minimally invasive choices for women who have a less aggressive form of the disease. “Less aggressive tumor types would be candidate for nipple-sparing mastectomy and implant. Also, placement of a tissue expander [that allows] serial skin expansion with eventual placement of a final prosthesis is the most simple and least invasive, but it involves multiple stages.”

If a whole breast is reconstructed, doctors spare no expense to make it look and feel as normal as possible for the patient.”With whole breast removal, nipple areola can be reconstructed at a later date using a number of great options taking skin from another part of the body.”

Don’t Fear It
Diagnosed or not, Dr. Ordon urges women to not fear breast cancer. “Today’s results with breast reconstruction are better then ever,” he emphasizes. “Breast cancer is a treatable disease when detected early, so don’t ignore any symptoms you’re experiencing out of fear of losing a sensitive part of you.”

Finding Support
Look Good Feel Better, a free support program for cancer patients, recently launched an app that gives users tips and ideas for skin care, make-up, wearing wigs and dressing after a mastectomy. Such support helps patients regain self-esteem and confidence, which is invaluable for a person battling the disease. For more info, go to www.lookgoodfeelbetter.org

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If there’s a Debbie Downer in your life, just let her be, Bernstein suggests.
Credit: NBC
I have a weekly radio show on Hay House radio every Wednesday. The show before mine is hosted by Dr. Christiane Northrup so I often listen to the last fifteen minutes of her program. Even as a passive listener of Dr. Northrup’s show I always pick up some kind of incredible wisdom and advice. On one show a caller complained that her mother loved to rant about how miserable she was. The caller went on to say, “my mother hates life and doesn’t believe in happiness.”

When I heard this comment I perked up with curiosity wondering how Dr. Northrup would answer. Without hesitation she responded, “Just let her rant!” She went on to explain that when people insist on living in fear our job isn’t to transform them. Instead, a powerful tool for dealing with negative people is to just let them be negative. Dr. Northrup suggested that when the other person wants to complain you let them, and even go as far as engage in the negativity. You can say things like, “I know how hard this must be for you. This really sucks,” and so on. By reinforcing their negativity it’s likely that they will experience two responses. One may be that they feel a sense of relief because they no longer need to defend their bad attitude. Or, they may experience a breakthrough moment where they actually witness the illusion of their negativity. Regardless of the outcome, this practice will help the other person experience their negativity first hand.

Simply allowing people to witness their behavior can help them move beyond it. Use this tool with family members, lovers, co-workers and even your children. Let all that needs to be said rise to the surface. Then once they have the first-hand experience of freely feeling their negativity you can gently suggest a new perception. Maybe you offer them a more positive way to perceive their life or maybe you share a experience of your own that can empower them. Gently lead them in a new direction and you’ll be amazed how receptive they will be.

This practice will not only support the other person but it will greatly help you. When we resist the negativity of others we start to feel negative. Whereas, when you just allow the negativity to rise and pass you can be the observer rather than a sponge soaking up their bad vibes. Test-drive this exercise the next time you’re around a Negative Nancy and enjoy the uplifting results.

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Wendy’s Flatbread Grilled Chicken Sandwich in Smoked Honey Mustard

The limited-edition sammie, available until the end of May, features grilled, all-white meat chicken breast on a five-grain toasted flatbread with lettuce, tomatoes and smoked honey mustard sauce. At 370 calories, it’s a better option than the other new flatbread, Asiago Ranch (530 cals). But skip the honey mustard sauce and your sandwich clocks in at 270 calories.

McDonald’s Egg White Delight McMuffin

Olympic Gold Medalist Gabby Douglas was at the launch of this new menu item, and if Gabby eats it and still has that body, you know we’re going after it. After trying the new concoction — egg whites, extra lean Canadian bacon and white cheddar on a toasted English muffin — we can say that it doesn’t take like a diet-y breakfast. And at 250 calories and 7 grams of fat (compared to an Egg McMuffin’s 300 cals and 12 grams of fat), it’s a light morning choice.

Burger King

When Burger King says they want you to have it your way, they mean it — and now, if “your way” includes something other than beef, consider it done! BK now has turkey burgers and veggie burgers (made with a MorningStar Farms Garden Veggie patty). Compared with a Whopper, the turkey burger is 100 fewer calories and has 9 fewer grams of fat, and the veggie burger has a “whopping” 220 fewer cals, and 19 fewer grams of fat!

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Facebook stalking your partner’s ex isn’t going to help strengthen your relationship — or your mental health.

Unless you’re one of the lucky few who’s managed to pursue serious relationships without becoming neurotic, chances are you’ve spent some amount of time wondering about, analyzing, or Facebook stalking your partner’s ex. But why do we care so much? Why are we so fascinated and threatened by who came before us?  Why does hearing their name immediately trigger our gag reflex?

The answer, perhaps, is that deep down we may be more romantic than we like to admit.  There are unspoken rules we’ve made about what the perfect relationship looks like and how it unfolds.  And though these trajectories aren’t based in reality as much as oversimplified plot lines of cheesy movies, there is still an element to those fantasies that feels true.

Rationally, we may know that having felt strong feelings before doesn’t preclude someone from feeling them again — that it doesn’t cheapen or change the next relationship.  We may understand that people have multiple love stories, even multiple ones that really matter. But in the Hollywood version of our lives, there is often only one great love affair. When faced with the reality that the person we love has already had a great love, the formula doesn’t seem to work.  Or, it makes us feel like we’re just the aftermath — the one who stepped in after “the real thing” didn’t work out.

Living through your 20’s is all about losing the fantasies of how your life should be. You learn to accept that your bachelor pad isn’t going to be some swanky dream home.  You reconcile that the big change you want to make in the world may be smaller and more slowly won.  But is it really necessary to give up the “perfect” love story, too?

The problem with fantasies is that they can’t be fought with facts. I offer up this advice, knowing that it may not work every day: It’s impossible to escape being in love without gaining a deeper understanding of yourself and what you need in a relationship.  And in that respect, having loved before only makes loving again more meaningful.

Tips:

1. Take a Facebook holiday.  It’s not a crime scene.  You’re not going to discover hidden clues you missed the first 15 times you Facebook stalked your partner. All you’re doing with Facebook stalking is driving yourself nuts.

2. Either you trust them or you don’t. We can drive ourselves crazy imagining that our partner might cheat or break our hearts in some way.  At some point we just need to trust our partners to be honest.  If your gut says not to, end it.

3. Focus on fixing it. It’s easy to blame things like exes, going out habits, or job stress for problems, but it’s more productive to see what things in the relationship can be fixed.

Need more dating and relationship help?  Amber is currently taking new clients.  Learn more at: www.ambermadi.com

Amber Madison is a Manhattan-based relationship expert and dating coach. She is the author of ‘Are All Guys Assholes?’ for which she traveled the country, spoke to over 1,000 men and discovered that the answer to this question is no. You can follow her on Twitter @ambermadi.

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The U.S. Food and Drug Administration announced that it has approved an amended application submitted by Teva Women’s Health, Inc. to offer Plan B One-Step without prescription to women 15 years old and older.

The emergency contraceptive will now be sold on store shelves instead of behind pharmacy counters.

Plan-B, better known as the “morning after pill” will now be labeled as not for sale to those younger than 15 and will require identification to prove age.

“Research has shown that access to emergency contraceptive products has the potential to further decrease the rate of unintended pregnancies in the United States,” FDA Commissioner Margaret A. Hamburg, M.D. said in a statement. “The data reviewed by the agency demonstrated that women 15 years of age and older were able to understand how Plan B One-Step works, how to use it properly, and that it does not prevent the transmission of a sexually transmitted disease.”

Plan B One-Step is an emergency contraceptive intended to reduce the possibility of pregnancy following unprotected sex. It decreases the possibility of pregnancy when taken immediately or within three days after unprotected sexual intercourse. It does not terminate pregnancy if already pregnant.

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One year ago, ten-year-old Scottish schoolgirl Martha Payne made headlines for blogging about her school meals and challenging food kids eat every day. At first, her primary school in Lochgilphead, western Scotland, forbade her from taking photos of what was on the lunch menu. But after her blog NeverSeconds went viral worldwide, the school gave in and announced all students would be given unlimited servings of fruit and vegetables.

Today, Payne is using her media success to champion food causes and raise money for a Mary’s Meals, a charity dedicated to support projects aimed at the poorest communities of the world to prevent child hunger.

The little blogger-activist told Metro how the internet and social media have been essential in helping others, and invites kids to be altruistic and visionary.

Q: How did you face the critics when you reported your school food in your school?

A: It was hard at times because not everyone was happy I was blogging. I did have permission from the school so I kept at it and didn’t give in. Because I was always honest it made it easier to face people.

Q: How did you realize the food in your school was unhealthy?

A: I live on a small farm and we grow some of our food. My food at home is very different. The food at school is very processed and I think simpler food is better.

Q: Now you support other kids worldwide. Can you tell us a little bit about that work?

A: My grandfather was a volunteer for Mary’s Meals and I have grown up knowing about it. Before my blog I made soaps and sold them to raise money for the charity. When someone commented on my blog that I was lucky to get any school lunch at all I decided to tell the readers about Mary’s Meals. I am glad I did!

Q: Do you consider yourself a role model for kids?

A: I didn’t plan to be a role model but if kids decide to do more to be heard and for others then I am happy!

Q: How would you encourage other kids and teenagers to join to this cause?

A: Kids are really good at sharing and getting along. We do it everyday in the playgrounds at our schools. We should remember we are the experts at that. Because of the internet we can share beyond our playground and countries. Also, don’t be scared to start a blog. You can change what you write without smudges, you can say what you care about and you can publish it!

Q: How important is social media for you?

A: My dad tweeted once about my blog and that’s how it started becoming famous. It is so quick to share stories that they can travel very fast. People do care about what children eat and about children that can’t get enough.

Q: Which is your favorite gadget?

A: My camera! I don’t have any other gadgets and use the family laptop to blog.

Q: Do you already know what are you going to study when you grow up?

A: I think I’d like to be an author or a journalist or a runner. Maybe I could be all three!

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Does that sore shoulder need head or ice? Read on to find out.

“Doc, pouring alcohol on a cut will prevent an infection, right?” Wrong! Here are a few of the most common ill advised home remedies, why they don’t work, and what you should do to help yourself before seeing a doctor.

Burns and butter – Butter has no medicinal properties whatsoever, and may even contaminate a burn, causing it to become infected. Any burns should initially be treated with cold water or an ice pack. Any first-degree burn (redness) can be treated with ibuprofen or aspirin for pain and inflammation, while second degree burns (blisters) should probably be evaluated by a health care professional.

Nosebleeds and ice, tilting your head back or putting tissues in your nose – Nosebleeds are almost universally caused by breakage of tiny capillaries in the mucous membrane lining of the nasal septum, usually from a picking finger or blunt trauma. Dry mucous membranes from a cold, dehydration, or dry air may contribute. Like all bleeding, the immediate treatment is direct pressure to the area — in this case, by blowing out any blood clots, and then pinching the nostrils over the fleshy part of the nose for 8-10 minutes. Ice will only make you nose cold. Tilting your head back will cause you to swallow any blood ad induce nausea and vomiting. And sticking tissues or cotton in the nostrils may be a temporary fix, but removing the packing will likely cause re-bleeding. Anyone taking blood thinners, or with a history of anemia, heart disease or lung disease should probably seek medical attention.

Cuts and rubbing alcohol or hydrogen peroxide – Hydrogen peroxide, rubbing alcohol, and iodine-based antiseptics (betadine) all kill bacteria, but these preparations also kill normal cells and tissue, making the injury worse if applied directly to a wound Any break in the skin is best treated by flushing the cut, scrape or puncture with running water, applying pressure until the bleeding stops and covering he wound with a sterile bandage and antibiotic cream or ointment. If you can see fat or other underlying tissue then the full thickness of your skin has been cut, and you probably need stitches. See a doctor ASAP.

Also
Heat or ice?
Acute musculoskeletal injuries (sprains, bruises) are best treated with intermittent ice and elevation, 20 minutes on and off, in order to reduce swelling and limit disability during the first 24 hours. Heat will increase circulation and so may make swelling from an acute injury worse. After 48 hours heat may improve mobility and accelerate reduction of bruising and swelling. Heat may also be used for improving circulation to soft tissue infections and facilitate treatment with prescribed antibiotics.

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Actress Catherine Zeta-Jones has sought help again for bipolar disorder, in what her publicist called a “pro-active” move to take care of her health.

It’s the second-known trip to a healthcare facility for the British actress since 2011, when news first broke that she suffers from bipolar II disorder – a milder form of the illness that is marked by sharp mood swings and erratic behavior.

“Catherine has pro-actively checked into a healthcare facility,” publicist Cece Yorke said. “Previously Catherine has said that she is committed to periodic care in order to manage her health in an optimum manner.”

Zeta-Jones, 43, who won an Oscar for her role in the 2002 musical “Chicago,” underwent treatment in 2011 for what aides said was the stress of coping with the advanced throat cancer diagnosis and treatment of her husband, actor Michael Douglas.

No specific reason was given this time for her decision to seek help.

Bipolar II is a milder form of the disorder and is marked by less manic “up” moods but more depressive episodes, according to medical experts. It can be treated with medication or therapy.

Zeta-Jones was last seen on screen in February in the crime thriller “Side Effects,” which received warm critical acclaim.

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I broke up with my boyfriend last year and then got involved with my current boyfriend. I don’t have contact with my ex, but I hold a grudge against him and get angry when I think about him. It affects my current relationship because I blame my new guy for issues related to my ex. How can I move on for good?

It’s not surprising that the person with whom you spent three years of your life is still on your mind a year later. He’s someone you likely confided in and shared a life with — someone with whom you thought you had a future. I can only speculate that you moved from one relationship to the next far too quickly. When a relationship ends, time is needed to grieve, reflect and process so that issues don’t go unresolved and spill into the next one. Clearly, this is what’s happening with you.

To get over your ex and find closure, take responsibility for your actions. Ask yourself: “How has my behavior and attitude impacted us? If I could go back and do it again, what would I change about myself?” Now is the time to own up to these things.

As long as you continue to view the relationship through an old lens, you’ll continue to be held hostage by the past. The issue here is one of control: A grudge leads to anger and resentment that energizes you, giving the illusion of control. The grudge may also be a way of holding your ex responsible for the downfall of the relationship. To shake this thinking, ask yourself: “Can I change the situation now? What do I gain by holding a grudge a year later? What will I gain by letting go?”

Finally, pretend you’re packing for a trip and you can only bring essential items. Would you take a healthy, positive attitude and a sense of humor or would you pack anger and resentment? The latter will only weigh you down.  Lighten the load by bringing only what’s beneficial to you and your new relationship.

Jonathan Alpert is a licensed psychotherapist and executive coach. His book, “Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days,” is available now. Email him your questions at jonathan@jonathanalpert.com and follow him on Twitter: @JonathanAlpert.

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