Where can I find classy porn? Funky Brown Chick knows

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Funky Brown Chick says that Rule 34 works for intelligence and class, too. Google it. Credit: Thinkstock

Question: Do you have arousal tools or techniques for single people? Most porn is so, so yucky. Sort of like becoming a drug addict, it leaves me feeling dirty and disrespected. I know there’s some good stuff out there, and my literary brain is hungry for good stuff. How does a woman of class and intelligence go about stretching sexual boundaries solo?

Rock on with your class and intelligence! Religion, parents, society and others sometimes teach us sex is inherently tacky and vulgar. We are all sexual beings. Pursuing fulfillment in that arena is a worthwhile endeavor for anyone seeking a healthy, well-balanced life.

I love that you used the words “tools” and “techniques.” Too often we blindly seek change in our lives without defining exactly needs to be different. Your head is in the right place on this one. You want to stretch your sexual boundaries, and you’re looking for a specific plan of action to achieve that goal. This is my advice:

Remember skin-to-skin contact is vital

Perhaps you need more than sex. Touch triggers neurochemical responses in your body. If you live alone, it is possible to go days or weeks without anyone touching you. At the office, it would be weird if a coworker caressed you. Although some friends hugs or kiss each time they meet, many don’t. Seek and give more cheek-kisses, hugs and other platonic touches. Don’t feel guilty, dirty or ashamed if you crave more physicality in general.

Watch smart porn

Smut has come a long way, baby! Somewhat less likely to be yucky, racist or sexist, feminist porn hit mainstream stride with Cindy Gallop’s ”Make Love Not Porn,” The Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards, Autostraddle’s excellent queer porn list and Violet’s Blue Smart Porn collection providing good jumping off points. I call “Rule 34” on class and intelligence. (Google it!)

Buy accoutrements

Remember: Solo does not mean sexless. Either use your hands or purchase toys for self-stimulation. Kiki de Montparnasse, Lelo and others offer high-end delights for more discerning customers.

Read more than “Fifty Hues of Hot Stuff”

You mentioned you are literary. It is entirely possible to get turned on without turning off your brain. Buy smart, sexy books. Drop by your favorite bookstore or online retailer. Ask or click around for great recommendations.

It’s time for a reality check: Find out if you’re lonely

I get it. Sex feels good. Yet, it is important to determine if you are using pleasure to mask other emotions. Feeling lonely is not about the number of people around you, it is about not having one’s needs met. If you achieve greater sexual fulfillment and you still feel like something is missing, try rounding out other areas of your life as well.



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