John Bolaris: This isn’t a pity party

I’m looking back on 2012 and, well, it was like getting hit hard with a Joe Frazier left hook. Head spinning, numb, free-falling in slow motion until your entire body hits the canvas — it’s been an insane year, my friends.

In case you haven’t been following, I lost my dream job as chief meteorologist, helped take down masterminds of a Russian mob, sued American Express (count this as a win), appeared on Dr. Phil, got engaged on the Howard Stern Show, moved to the burbs as the city became too costly, and finally had to sell my dream home — the one I worked all my life for, the one my little girl called “the magic house.” I still don’t have the heart to tell her that I sold it.

This isn’t a pity party for me. Many of you have suffered greatly during this past year, and many of you have struggled much longer. But what I’ve learned is that struggles make your inner self stronger — you become more compassionate and understanding. Something else I realized is that you definitely find out who your true friends are, both personally and professionally.

Everyone in life makes mistakes, nobody is holier-than-thou and the people who act that way are only kidding themselves. I’ve learned so much over this past year and am really excited about 2013. For those of you who have been set adrift, let’s make 2013 our year. Here’s my plan:

1. First thing in the morning, hug your child and partner and tell them you love them.

2. Smile, and be positive throughout the day — positive vibes go a long way.

3. Exercise — it’s a must for physical and mental health.

4. Do not get overwhelmed when you feel your ship is sinking one bucket of water at a time.

5. Health is wealth — never forget this.

6. Be nice to people. You will be shocked at how good you feel.

7. Strive to be the very best at what you do.

8. Preparation is the key to success.

9. Never cheat.

10. Always tip your waitress or waiter — and your bartender, too!