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Laurie Davis

Single and Swiping: What to do after a date

In a world where everyone is dating multiple people, dating can feel transient. Maybe it often leaves you wondering things like, “Will I get a text … or is this it?”It’s rare to stop and revel in the glow of the flirtation and let the experience sink in. Even if it was a great date, you start...

Monday, March 13, 2017 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: How to deal with rejection

There’s nothing worse than going on an amazing date … only to get ghosted. It can send you into a spiral. You may think, “Could I have misread her signals that much?” Or, “He said he wanted to go out again, so why isn’t he asking me out?”The feeling is similar even if the person does respond to you...

Monday, February 27, 2017 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: How to make sure your conversation flows on a date

It’s not uncommon to go on a date that feels forced and wonder, “How could I have misread the connection?” It can happen whether you’re five dates in on Valentine’s Day or it’s a first date on any day of the week.To flirt with each other in real life and connect completely, you need to create...

Tuesday, February 14, 2017 - 3:30pm

Single and Swiping: Tired of dating? Try these tips

If you’re single and swiping, it’s likely that you’ve felt dating fatiguebefore. It’s that moment when you just can’t look at another profile or go on another bad date. So you log off. You’re burnt out.Most online daters cycle through times of being proactive — sending and swiping — and times of...

Monday, January 30, 2017 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: How not to break your resolution for love

One of the most popular New Year’s resolutions is to make a romantic connection with someone.Often resolutions are executed with force. There are goals set and metrics to be met. But when it comes to love, that doesn’t work. You’re not trying to lose weight — you’re looking for a partner. This...

Monday, January 16, 2017 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: What should you really look for in a partner?

“Am I too picky?” a client recently asked. Maybe it’s something you’ve wondered while searching and swiping too.I hear this question most from those who’ve dated a lot. Naturally, your feelings of who would be a good match for you may be fuzzy after a dozen first dates.While you can re-evaluate...

Tuesday, January 3, 2017 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: What to do if you don’t like your gift

Choosing that perfect holiday gift for someone you’re newly dating — whether you’re exclusive or not — isn’t easy. Perhaps you’ve put a lot of thought into what you’re giving your sweetie and are really excited to exchange presents.So what happens if you open up your gift … and don’t like it?Right...

Monday, December 19, 2016 - 3:30pm

Single and Swiping: How to breakup with someone and remain friends

We’ve all heard it before. “I’m not feeling a spark with you, but I’d love to be friends.” You’ve officially been put in the friend zone — and it almost never feels good. In fact, sometimes it feels disingenuous, like the other person doesn’t really want to be your friend but just wants to soften...

Monday, December 5, 2016 - 3:30pm

Single and Swiping: What to do if your match stops messaging

“I had a few messages with a woman, but then she stopped messaging,” one of my clients mentioned this week. It’s not uncommon for a match to ghost — before you’ve even met offline. Maybe you were in the middle of planning a date when they stopped replying. Or perhaps it happened after only one or...

Monday, November 21, 2016 - 3:30pm

Single and Swiping: How to write a dating profile to attract the right matches

​Are you attracting the type of matches you’re looking to meet? If not, it’s probably your profile. (And yes, youneedto write something, not just post photos … even on dating apps.)Writing a profile will mean better connections because it becomes easier for people to start a conversation with you,...

Monday, November 7, 2016 - 3:30pm

Single and Swiping: How politics can undermine your love life

"He's for Trump and I'm for Hillary,” my client shared with me. She laughed as she added, “…And I forgive him for that."These days, it’s rare for someone to be so accepting. Politics were previously taboo to discuss on a first date — but now myinbox is flooded with messages from clients saying...

Monday, October 24, 2016 - 2:30pm

Single and Swiping: When silence is the solution

Silence happens a lot in dating — and not always for good reason. Maybe a match suddenly stops responding or someone ghostsyou after a date. Neither of these scenarios feel good. However, there is a time to be silent — and that’s when someone you’re not interested in messages you on a dating site...

Monday, September 26, 2016 - 2:30pm

Single and Swiping: How to deal with awkward questions on first dates

If you’re asked “When was your last relationship?” on a first date, you probably want just want to reply with, “Whoa, that is TMI.” But there is an art to answering these big questions on first dates.“Big questions” are different for everyone, but it’s usually the one, awkward thing that makes you...

Monday, August 29, 2016 - 2:30pm

Single and Swiping: How to not ghost (and say no instead)

One of my clients recently admitted she only messages men online who she “thinks will be a good date.” When we explored this decision-making, we discovered that she selects like this so she won’t have to turn down a second date. The confrontation is too uncomfortable for her.This isn’t the first...

Monday, August 15, 2016 - 2:30pm

Single and Swiping: Why dating is not a numbers game

Recently, a client sent over a spreadsheet of his resultswith online dating. It was incredibly detailed — broken down by platform and multiple data points, such as the number of women who replied to his first messages, then second messages, and so on.He’s not my first— I’ve seen other spreadsheets....

Monday, August 1, 2016 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: How to spot a lazy dating profile

“How do I tell if a match is worth messaging?” is a question I hear often because when you’re on a site or an app, you date the matches you pick. If you swipe left or skip over someone, you won’t meet them, so how can you judge who’s a good match for you based on merely a few sentences and photos?...

Monday, July 18, 2016 - 5:00am

Single and Swiping: Should I go on a second date?

I asked a client recently how she knew her past relationships were worth pursing. She said that the first time she met each of the guys she was in a relationship with, there was “an instant click” — the conversation went on for hours, they had good chemistry, and then the relationship continued.We’...

Tuesday, July 5, 2016 - 4:30pm

Single & Swiping: How to date (based on how you met)

Twenty years ago, the methods of meeting a mate were simpler. You met in school, at the local hangout, or were introduced through friends. Today, our access to dates has expanded and, with that, so have the modes of meeting. You could meet your next relationship in person, on the web, or on an app...

Monday, June 20, 2016 - 2:30pm

Single & Swiping: Location-based apps connect matches sitting nearly face-to-face

When you’re constantly checking your phone, how many connections do you think you’re missing out on? If you were paying attention, you might see that cutie at Starbucks who tried to make eye contact or that person on the subway who wanted to say “hi,” but decided you weren’t approachable with...

Monday, May 9, 2016 - 2:30pm

Single & Swiping: 5 profile pics you need to delete right now

When you’re on a dating app, your matches are choosing to chat with you (or not) because of your photos.When I search with my clients, I notice that if there is one single bad photo, they swipe left.To keep your matches swiping right, here are the photos you should delete ASAP — and why.RELATED:...

Monday, April 25, 2016 - 2:30pm