US – Friday, July 30
Updated 20:37, September the 20th, 2009
 
Bad boss ruining your life? Authors Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster can help you deal with it.Bad boss ruining your life? Authors Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster can help you deal with it.
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Good bosses gone bad

▶ Toxic bosses can wreak havoc on your life ▶ Pair show you how to reclaim your relationship for a better work environment ▶ Many bosses lack training

Bad bosses can take on many different incarnations — they can be harsh critics, underminers,  yellers, control freaks, discriminators  — the possibilities are endless. But no matter which kind of category your boss falls under, if he or she is “bad,” then Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster will show you how to deal with it in their new book, “Working For You Isn’t Working For Me: The Ultimate Guide To Managing Your Boss.”

“We found that people often feel crazy when they’re in crazy circumstances,” Crowley says. “We want to help people identify exactly what the problem is with their boss so they can help change it.”

 

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How to manage your manager

In their book, Crowley and Elster have written a four-step plan to help you deal with difficult workplace relationships:

1
Detect:
Realize that you are in a toxic boss-employee relationship and understand how it’s affecting you both emotionally and physically.

2
Detach:
Accept the fact that you cannot change your boss,  and find ways to take back the power over your state of mind.

3 Depersonalize:
Learn that your boss’s behavior is his or her problem, not yours, and try — hard as it may be — not to take it personally.

4 Deal: Devise a plan of protection to manage your relationship, and create a strategy to move forward in your career.

Why it can get so bad

When you feel like you’re being attacked  (or ignored) by a bad boss, you tend to become so insecure or resentful that you’re the one who ends up looking incompetent. As the authors point out, many times a boss is bad because he or she has had little training. “There is so little training in many managing positions that they don’t have the tools to oversee a staff professionally,” Elster says. “That makes the entire relationship more informal and much more personal.”

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