Consider volunteering to take the focus off yourself and more on those in need. And of course, remember the tried and tested stress management essentials: eating healthily by setting limits with holiday spirits and food; exercising to burn stress; getting proper rest; and being flexible with your schedule.
I’m having a tough time dealing with the craziness of the holiday season. Money is tight and I’m working extra to make ends meet, leaving me with little time to attend all the holiday parties.
Honestly I’m sick of the holiday crap, materialism, fakeness, and everyone pretending to be all happy. What do you recommend?
Wow, Scrooge does exist. But no worries, every December there’s an increase in people coming to see me for help with Scrooge-like behavior, and by making a few adjustments, they’re feeling just fine by Christmas … and you will, too.
For starters, feel good knowing you can make the distinction between what’s real and what’s fake.
Know that you have more control over this issue than you might think. Make a choice: Participate in the craziness of the holiday season or reduce stress by celebrating in your own special way.
Recognize that materialism is largely Hollywood and Hallmark-fueled and is not an expression of love, nor does extravagance equal happiness. Set an example for friends and family by doing something that reflects your beliefs. In light of money being tight, spare the craziness of shopping malls and be creative. Make greeting cards and give homemade gift certificates to your friends and family.
Next, examine your expectations. Do you have to attend every holiday party or is this self-imposed?
Feel comfortable saying no to stressful situations and yes to those that are truly important.
– Jonathan Alpert is a licensed psychotherapist. E-mail him your questions at jonathan@jonathanalpert.com
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