For the last decade, I’ve been writing self-help books and preaching the Gospel of Gabby to audiences throughout the world. And no matter what country I’m in, these three questions are always coming up.
“How do I release my fear?”
This is the most popular question I get, and my response is the same no matter what the person may fear: All of our fears are rooted in the stories we choose to believe in. When we get stuck in negative stories (“I don’t have enough,” “I’m unsafe,” “I’m not good enough” and so on), we give them continuous energy to feed on.
By no means am I belittling our difficult, even traumatic, experiences. Instead, I’m offering the suggestion that we learn to release them so they don’t hold us hostage for the rest of our lives.
Begin to heal your fears right now simply by acknowledging them. We tend to put a lot of effort into ignoring our fears; try examining them instead. Upon looking at your fear, say, “I choose to see peace instead of this.” This simple choice shifts your perspective and begins a new pattern of releasing the fear rather than gripping it tightly.
Stay committed to this statement: “I choose to see peace instead of this,” and trust that you are creating a new story. A shift in perspective may seem subtle, but it is infinitely powerful.
“How do I attract a romantic partner?”
This question is relevant even if you’re attached!
Attracting (or keeping) a romantic partner has everything to do with the energy you emit. If you give off a low vibe, you are deflecting romance — your energy basically tells other people to back off. But if you choose to dwell in an energy of joy, you become super attractive.
The simple tool here is to lean into what is joyful. If you make joy and inspiration a priority in your life, you’ll become a magnet for attracting all kinds of relationships. Pay close attention to how your good attitude brings forth more love.
If this feels new and weird to you, start with your interactions with friends, colleagues or even strangers. Share kindness and joy, and see how it changes your everyday encounters.
“How do I meditate?”
People are becoming more and more comfortable with the concept of meditation. Folks can easily identify that they are stressed and anxious, and the way out of that mindset is through meditation.
The simplest way to begin a meditation practice is through your breath. You have a minute to spare, right? One minute a day spent in stillness can change your life. Commit to one minute a day and use the practice to silence your mind and calm your energy.
The One-Minute Breath
Practice this technique for one minute every day:
- Breathe in for 5 seconds
- Hold your breath for 5 seconds
- Release for 5 seconds
- Hold for 5 seconds
If you like my answers to these common questions, you can get more! Tune in to my upcoming episode of “Help Desk” on the Oprah Winfrey Network on Oct. 26 at noon.