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Most best-selling nonfiction authors are men. The most successful online personalities are men. The people who have made it the biggest in the motivational speaking field?  Yup, men again.

Most best-selling nonfiction authors are men. The most successful online personalities are men. The people who have made it the biggest in the motivational speaking field? Yup, men again.

This is not to say that there aren’t lots of accomplished women in these areas. There are. But there are more men. I’ve been thinking about this, and my preliminary conclusion is that it has to do with natural confidence and the perception others have of you as a result of that confidence.

When I do a talk, I always poll my audience to see what they think so that I can improve my speech. There aren’t a lot of top male speakers who do this. They know they’re awesome — and if you don’t like them, they assume that you’re in the minority.

Women spend a lot of time being modest. Sometimes we actually feel that way, and sometimes we think that’s how we’re supposed to act so that other people will like us. At times, though, I believe it has the reverse effect. Other people don’t view us as talented or as worthy because we don’t appear to view ourselves that way.

I’m going to work on being proud of my accomplishments and feeling that I deserve to be in esteemed company. Ladies, what are you going to do? And men, how can you help us master your secrets to success?

–Alexandra Levit is the author of “They Don’t Teach Corporate in College: A Twenty-Something’s Guide to the Business World” and a nationally recognized authority on workplace issues facing young employees.

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