Pamela Cress loves dating online. But after two great relationships, her profile is falling flat.

New York’s brimming with online daters. So why’s it so hard to find a mate?

One online yenta claims to have the answer.

In a Chelsea studio with a boa-draped piano, relationship coach Donna Dudek hosted a $150 “Dating Profile Makeover 911” course Wednesday to get online lives in order.

More users doesn’t mean more dates, she told a half-dozen women who ranged from their 30s to their 50s. Snappy profiles and virtual flirting are key.

Much revolves around the online dater’s nemesis — the profile photo.

“They look at [profile] pictures first,” Dudek said. “If he wants to know more, he’ll look through the rest of your pictures.”

A smiling photo attracts attention, she added, as does a hobby, like a snapped softball team.

While women were coached to improve their profiles, they shared horror stories: the Speedo picture, the decades-older date.

“If a man’s under 6 feet, he lies about his height. And most women lie about their weight,” said a woman in a sequin-trimmed black dress.

Afterward, Cress said she decided not to lie about her age, 52.

“I’m going to stay with the profile I’ve had,” she said, “just with better photos.”


Five online dating don’ts:

1 Post profile pictures from high school.
2 Lie about your age, height, weight.
3 Give cell number, use *67 instead, followed by
the phone number, which will block the receiver from seeing your number.
4 Tell someone you Googled them.
5 Chase someone who doesn’t reply.