Finally live up to your potential

Ask yourself this question: Do you feel that you’re the best you that you can possibly be? In other words, do you feel that you’re living up to your potential?

I asked around and, in all honesty, wasn’t surprised to hear that for many people, the answer was a resounding, and absolutely certain, no.

So what does that mean? Well, it depends on to whose standards you’re measuring yourself. Do you have high expectations of yourself? Are you trying to live up to someone whom your parents expect you to be?


Let’s take an extreme example of the world-renowned singer, songwriter, performer, children’s book author and actor, Madonna. I think she taps into her potential better than anyone else. Whatever she chooses to do, she does — and does well. But I bet if you asked her, she would say she could be doing better.

But how can we compare ourselves to anybody else when we are who we are? You would be self-righteous to compare yourself to a barefoot villager in Ethiopia — but that’s a ridiculous comparison. Just as ridiculous as comparing yourself to the extremely wealthy, the established high society, or the generations of Hollywood royalty.

So, which is more important: Living up to your own standards, or those of others? I’d say the former.

But they have to be realistic, attainable, and positive standards. As one social worker stated, “It’s important to always feel a sense of accomplishment and success. In order to do that, we have to constantly evaluate our goals and create new ones as we grow.”

It’s like making a to-do list for your life. If you make your daily list with too many things, as in more than can be realistically done in one day, you’ll end the day feeling heavy with the weight of things still yet to be done. If, however, you give yourself a short list, and get it all done, it’s possible to feel huge accomplishment at the end of each day.

The same goes for life goals. So, back to my original question. If you answered yes, then, great. Keep up the good work.

If you answered no, then why not take some time to re-evaluate what you want out of life. Talk to your friends and family and commend yourself on those things you have accomplished. Then make your new to-do list for the rest for your life.

Lisi Tesher is a much travelled freelance writer who has studied art history, photography, languages and pop culture. She is also a constant and fascinated student of relationships, maintaining contact with a worldwide network.

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