Expert weighs in on which lubes fit certain needs

In even the best of relationships, there’s bound to be some friction, but most of that friction doesn’t need to get between the sheets. After all, that’s what personal lubricants are for.


Although most people don’t see lube as an essential part of sex, Gill Lamon, co-owner of Come As You Are sex store, begs to differ.


“Folks have all sorts of body parts and orifices that do not self lubricate. Even the parts that do, lube is just one of those things that can enhance pleasure in lovemaking.”


Just like sexual positions, no two lubes are the same. Lamon says there are a couple things to be thoughtful of when shopping for one. The first is deciding what you are using it for. “Thicker lubes tend to stay put better. So when you are playing with anal sex or with toys where you really want the lube to stay put, a thicker lube tends to be better. A thinner lube is better for more general play,” Lamon says.


The second factor to be mindful of is allergies: Go for all-natural or fewer ingredients, Lamon says.

Allergies or not, one ingredient many women tend to avoid is glycerine. “... a lot of women find that because it does convert into sugar it will actually feed a yeast infection given the right environment.”

For the lube virgin, Lamon recommends starting out with something long-lasting and simple like Astroglide, which has been on the market for quite a while and “has a nice consistency.”

People who prefer a slightly thicker consistency would do well to try Slippery Stuff, while the truly patriotic might opt for B.C.’s Hathor, which “has a really neutral taste,” Lamon says.

Another lube whetting the sexual appetites of couples is Pre-Seed, which doesn’t negatively affect sperm motility like some others.

Personal lubricants may also be the answer for women with female sexual arousal disorder (the ability to attain or maintain self-lubrication). For them, there is a new over-the-counter product called Vibrel (by GlycoBioSciences), which is more of a sexual enhancer than solely a lubricant. “The compound (in Vibrel) penetrates all three layers of skin … (and) draws blood and fluid to the vaginal area,” says John Guerra, a lead scientist for Vibrel, adding the extra blood flow helps to stimulate the vaginal area.

So if your bedside drawer doesn’t already have a tube of lube, I say happy shopping.