Andrea & Claire

Carpe date ’em, carpe diem

I am in my early 30s and I am a single guy. I feel very lonely, like my life is passing me by. At times I feel jealous to see people older and younger than me getting married and I do not know what to do about it. I am always told I am too nice and I am shy with girls as well. I do not know how to...

Tuesday, January 24, 2012, 3:24 AM

Sexy and you don’t know it

Hi, I just turned 30 and it’s been a couple of years since I’ve dated. I didn’t date mostly because of my weight, which I’m now starting to work on. I’m really social, have lots of friends and people do compliment my looks despite this, but I’m still freaked out about getting close to someone. I am...

Tuesday, November 22, 2011, 2:10 AM

Getting back in the game

Dear sisters,Do you have any advice on meeting new people? I’m a Chinese-born Canadian, living in Vancouver, and recently got out of a relationship several months ago. I just turned 26, and most of my friends’ are already dating or married. I met my last girlfriend at a party through mutual friends...

Tuesday, November 8, 2011, 12:49 AM

You may be a prize catch, but if the timing ain’t right ...

I’m a guy who usually doesn’t have a problem getting women, but recently I met a girl I really liked and after only a couple of dates, she broke it off. This kind of thing has happened to me before. Why is it that when I really like a girl, it doesn’t work out, but when I’m only half into it, I’m...

Tuesday, October 25, 2011, 2:38 AM

Deaf or not, confidence is the key to picking up

Dear Andrea and Claire,I’m a good-looking deaf man who enjoys going to pubs and nightclubs. I can’t hear or speak clearly, but I can read lips fairly well. Very few women I meet know sign language, but I don’t only look for someone who can. When I go out, I get attention from women, but I’m not...

Tuesday, October 11, 2011, 2:34 AM

Tips for a wingman

My best friend’s a tool when it comes to women, and I really don’t get it. We’re both decent-looking guys with good jobs and lots of confidence. To top it off, he’s probably seen every pick-up video out there, but when it comes to talking to women, he can’t close the deal. He tells me to hold him...

Tuesday, September 27, 2011, 1:11 AM

Love can get itchy

I am in love with an amazing woman, it’s relatively new and things are going really well ... but she’s just informed me that she has herpes. We’ve been having safe sex, and used condoms, but I know it can be transmitted regardless. I have to admit it threw me — how do I handle this? – Itchy love....

Tuesday, September 13, 2011, 12:56 AM

ignore pop culture: cougar is just a word

As a woman approaches 40, popular culture begins to get nasty (in all sorts of ways). One particularly galling change is that a 40-ish woman enjoying a night out with the girls suddenly gets labelled a “cougar” and is automatically reduced to a thing of ridicule — regardless of her marital status....

Tuesday, August 16, 2011, 10:30 AM

Doomed to travel for my treats

Dear Claire and Andrea, I travel a lot for work and have met great people in some of the cities I’ve been to. Lately I've been dating two people – each in a different city - but I can’t see to find anyone in my own town. What am I doing wrong? Am I destined to have to travel for my treats?Dear...

Tuesday, May 24, 2011, 7:55 PM

‘Your mom is your mom’

My mother and I don’t get along. I’m a mother too, and in some ways that makes me less tolerant of her behaviour, because I wouldn’t treat my own child the way she treats me: she’s rude, thoughtless, undependable, often in front of my daughter! On the other hand, now that I’m a mother I almost feel...

Tuesday, May 10, 2011, 11:30 AM

Sometimes you have to be told 'he's just not into you'

I went out on a date with this guy and it went really well. We set up a second date as we both had a great time. The only problem is he never called me back! I texted him a couple of times, but aside from some random, non-committal texts back, he’s never asked me out again. What did I miss?Clueless...

Tuesday, April 26, 2011, 7:55 PM

Cut the flirting or face the results

I’m in a great relationship with my girlfriend of three years. Lately though, I’ve been hanging out with her friend who now works for the same company I do. My girlfriend is OK with it, and nothing’s going on, but her friend’s a little flirtatious. Is it still OK to hang out as long as no moves are...

Tuesday, April 12, 2011, 7:30 PM

Should I be Facebook friends with a potential love interest?

I met a cute guy at a dinner party the other night, and I gave him my phone number. We’ve texted each other a few times since then, and so far so good: I’m seeing him tomorrow night. But he just sent me a request to be friends on Facebook: What should I do? One friend told me she makes it a rule...

Tuesday, March 29, 2011, 7:55 PM

The single parent dating minefield

Dear Sisters,How does a single parent date? And how are we supposed to scope out the other single parents at the park without looking like we're trying to pick up happily married spouses, and do all that without letting your child fall off the jungle gym? And once you're out with someone - parent...

Tuesday, March 15, 2011, 7:55 PM

The past seven years are over, the next years are up to you

Hi, I have been dating my bf for almost seven years. We are both in our early 20s and have known each other since middle school. I don't know if I should continue with him because it seems it is taking him so long do couple things with me, like travelling or anything special. We never do anything...

Tuesday, March 1, 2011, 7:55 PM