Why being ‘alone’ on Valentine’s Day is cool – Metro US

Why being ‘alone’ on Valentine’s Day is cool

Why being ‘alone’ on Valentine’s Day is cool

In 1962, Helen Gurley Brown released a revolutionary book: “Sex and the Single Girl.”

She wrote about what the young womeon of her generation silently did: they had many sexual encounters before marriage and enjoyed their sex life.

The book became a best-seller and Brown turned “Cosmopolitan” magazine, where she was the longtime editor, into a space to fight for female sexual freedom. And, of course, being single.

Decades later, “Sex and the City’s” Carrie Bradshaw on HBO, along with her friends, showed that single women and men could have it all, or close to it. Of course, all these principles were turned into dust when almost all of the lead characters on the show found love.

The great exception to the rule was Samantha Jones, a character who still loved being single at her 50s.

Since the show ended, many movies, TV series and plays have been released showing how “pathetic” singles could be. Getting married and showing your “trophy” on Feb. 14 started to be considered a great achievement.

“Valentine’s Day should be the space to celebrate ourselves, as should every day,” Alvaro Bonilla, psychologist and founder of the blog, “The art of seduction,” told Metro.

Bonila said Valentine’s Day comes with mixed emotions for many people “because they haven’t found anyone for a long time,” he said.

For that reason, popular culture may mock them with the “forever alone” tag, he added.

So, instead of a day that may be fun and full of love, it becomes a reminder of being alone.

Not a pleasing thought, Bonilla said, and what may be a temporary situation takes on the feeling that it is “eternal,” he said. “This is only a delusion, because when you are single, you can learn to love yourself. You can be lonely, but never desolate.”

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