I am currently traveling and I met a guy basically as soon as I arrived in the country. We started dating pretty much straight away. He ended up getting a room in same house-share, so we saw each other every day (but he usually stayed in my room with me). He broke it off just over two months ago, but we have still been living together and seeing each other "as friends" every day, as well. He ended things because he said he wasn't ready. I have fallen for him and struggle to not get jealous when I think he's interested in other girls. He has hooked up with a couple of girls since our breakup but tried to lie to me and said nothing happened. He also has shown signs of jealousy when he thought I was going on dates with guys and even just giving them my number. I haven’t kissed anyone apart from him but he doesn’t believe that.
I just want to understand why he still gets jealous and why he seems happy to spend every evening with me if he doesn't have feelings for me. I am leaving in a few days and want to tell him how I feel before I go ... but not sure if that's a good idea because I've told him before.
What I should do?
People who run hot and cold are more than challenging to deal with… mostly because they make you think you did/are doing something wrong, and that’s why they won’t commit. In truth, they are doing precisely what works for them… and part of that is to not be committed so you keep chasing them.
My thoughts and advice: Instead of trying to adjust yourself and your expectations (over and over again) for someone who will constantly change the game, you need to make a clear, empowered decision that you will not settle for anyone's half- assed, second-best approach to being involved with you—in any capacity. You are worth more than the way they are treating you, and you need to stop settling for it and tolerating it.