For every pop song about the glory of love, there’s another one about how it turns us into idiots only to leave us heartbroken. But what if the reason love is complicated is because we make it that way?
It’s time to simplify your love life. On Valentine’s Day, Dr. Ximena Lopez Garcia, 7, and Dr. Holly Marjorie Bubbles Hook, 6, will be answering your love queries at (appropriately) Pete’s Candy Store, the Williamsburg concert venue. If you think about it, they’re perfect for the job: Love never gets less complicated than before middle school, so they’re probably your best chance at straightforward, unbiased advice.
We asked the Greenpoint-based duo to give us a preview of their group therapy session to demystify this thing called love and set you up for many happy Valentine’s Days to come.
Stop overthinking: Dr. Lopez sums up love as “something very pretty that happens,” but each person has to do their part: be good to each other and tell your partner how you feel. Love requires compromise, but the benefits are mutual, notes Dr. Bubbles. “If they like you a lot you should do what they say, and then sometimes they’ll do what you say.” And remember that love starts with you: “If you don’t love yourself, it makes your heart sad,” says Dr. Lopez. “But if you love yourself, it makes your whole self happy.”
Necessary qualities: When it comes to what the doctors consider important in a person they love, nothing material came up — take note, those who are prone to grand gestures on Valentine's Day but never pick up milk. Besides valuing happiness and politeness in a person, Dr. Lopez reminds us that love requires a little bravery: “They can’t be that shy because if you want to be in love, you have to tell the person.” Dr. Bubbles appreciates her boyfriend Milo "because he’s nice to me and because he always plays with me,” and comforted her after a recent soccer injury. Chivalry is not dead, guys!