Gwyneth Paltrow wants you to know all about her ‘specialness’

In case anyone was wondering, Gwyneth Paltrow has some more details about her “conscious uncoupling” from husband Chris Martin last year, conveniently contained in a nice, neat Marie Clare feature interview. The biggest revelation? It turns out that we were all just expecting too much from Paltrow, who really just needed some Me Time. “I had built my life on trying to be all things to all people, and I just couldn’t do it anymore. I really had the sense that I wasn’t allowed to have needs, and I had to prove my specialness or self-worth by doing all this stuff and taking care of everybody else. And I just sort of hit a wall,” Paltrow tells the magazine. I’d rather not kick off the year psychoanalyzing a mondo-sized case of self-martyrdom, so instead I’ll just say glad you’re feeling better, Ms. Paltrow. You do you.

But then, she also seems to have an issue with people thinking too much about her personal life, even after she basically did the magazine equivalent of jumping up and down, arms waving, shouting, “Look at my personal life!” Paltrow’s second message? Don’t judge. “I think we are all genuinely doing our best, it’s hard to have children and a career, and all some women seem to do is judge other women’s choices. I find that demoralizing and unhelpful,” she says. “Where is the wisdom coming out of this situation? I don’t see where this is getting us anywhere in terms of a cultural discussion.” I guess she told us?