The fastest way to turn me on is to spank me. I don’t know why I have such a Pavlovian response to a hand crashing down hard on my butt, but it’s one of my favorite sexual activities ever.
It’s not like this is for everyone, but for me, just getting on my hands and knees — my usual position to be spanked — is enough to excite me. Anticipating the first smack reminds me that even if I think I know what’s coming, I never really do.
Maybe it’ll be hard, or maybe more of a tap; as a submissive, giving up control (within that limited context) is integral to my enjoyment. Asking for it adds another level of intimacy.
Then there are the actual smacks. Do they hurt? Yes, but it’s not the same as other types of pain. First, because I’m expecting and eagerly anticipating it. A good spanking isn’t only about my butt, but my entire body. I also know the person is doing it because I (and they) want it, not because I’m being punished. Though I might be “punished” as part of a consensual role-playing scene, there is no true anger behind it.
Because spanking gets me in the mood, I usually use it as a prelude to sex, but plenty of people enjoy spanking as their main course. I love the intimacy of a hand spanking, especially since I know from having delivered my fair share of them that the spanker also emerges with tingling skin. I’ve been spanked with hands, paddles, rulers, hairbrushes, even a book. (I’m partial to furry paddles that can follow their blows with some sensual TLC by turning them over.)
Even though there are plenty of implements that can be used, you don’t need any of them to deliver a quality spanking.
Giving a spanking can make you feel wicked and powerful, especially when it leaves the spankee drooling and docile. It’s free and can be done pretty much anywhere, with no need to plan ahead (though you may be overheard, which can be part of the fun). There are endless variations: over underwear or bare-skinned, with a vibrator against your genitals, in positions such as over-the-knee, bent over a bed or leaning against the wall.
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