Kathryn Hahn is a mom in two current movies. In the indie drama “Captain Fantastic” the scene-stealing actress plays an uptight parent whose two sons love video games and hate school. In the studio comedy “Bad Moms,” her character, Carla, has given up trying to be a model mother and would rather go to the bar with her fellow moms (played by Mila Kunis and Kristen Bell) than attend her teenage son’s baseball games. Hahn is a mother of two herself, though she’s not like either of them — though she does worry endlessly about how best to raise her kids.
I’m not a parent, but I imagine reading a script about rebellious moms is really thrilling if you are.
Oh my god. That was exactly it. I read it knowing that two gentlemen wrote it. I thought, “Hmm, let’s see, fellas!” I read it and was so excited by how cathartic it felt. It really exploded those crazy expectations society has placed on so many mamas. There’s so much judgment in parenting. It was such a wish fulfillment to say “screw you” to all those expectations that we put on ourselves — how we if we stray from any of those we feel like failures. It’s absurd.
I’m always afraid that if I was a parent I’d screw the kids up.
You’re handed this perfect, gorgeous, untainted, pure being. You feel like, ‘This is my chance to curate their experiences and make the most amazing, brilliant, most empathetic soul on the planet.’ And of course, it’s just one lesson after another of how out-of-control you are. It’s a crazy, awesome responsibility that you have no preparation for. Nothing can prepare you for what that is, and how much more challenging that gets the older they get. But holy crap, what a crazy privilege. It’s definitely not for every human on the planet, for sure.
I have married friends who don’t want kids and hate that everyone asks them, “When are you having a baby?”
I’d say, “Thank you, guys, for not overpopulating the planet!” We need more of those couples.